me and my bf have been on and off for about a year...when we breakup im really happy he comes back to me, but when were together he acts like hes scared of me or hes intimadated by me....what is this? i know he likes me, his friends tell me he really likes me, and that he would never breakup with me unless i cheated on him ( which i would NEVER do) but why does he act this way ?
he wants to have sex, but i have been holding off because i dont know what hes thinking, he seems to really care about me....but why is he scared of me?
i would really appreciate serious answers. :) thanx
( im not a little girl....im 20)
2006-08-07 17:53:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
The reason why he is scared of you is because he doesn't want to mess up again. He is scared that if he makes you mad that you may leave him again. He wants to have sex just like any guy would but he can't get close with you because he is scared that you may feel scared of intimadated by what he does or says. Just let him know that you care about him and that you and him wont break up because of any reason that isn't serious. Im a guy and i know how it is, ive been through that same thing. He just feels like he can only get intament with you. Dont worry its just a phase it'll pass over. Good luck on your relationship
2006-08-07 20:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by Hugo P. 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him why he's scared or what is it that he is scared about? It seems as though this is a habit of his to run off and come back, from what i understand. Would you ever consider that not "putting out" makes him feel like he is not good enough for you, or he might just be testing you, trying to figure out when you will give in. I might be wrong. He obviously seems to like you if he tells his friends he does. Communication is the key to a successful relationship.
2006-08-07 18:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by alter_ego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you're a little girl or not, I suggest you save sex for marriage. For one, if a guy will marry you, you know he loves you. The guy you're talking about sounds like someone who would just run off after "scoring." My advice is to not follow the majority... sex has become a plaything. It's meant for an expression of love between (true) lovers, among other obvious things. So wait until marriage. Even if you've done it before. Just wait. You won't regret it.
2006-08-07 18:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by Eric M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have a nature about them if they are normal males, of course, and at that age they may be afraid of the commitment because they are so young. Men are not like they used to be in the old days, when they could actually dedicate theirselves to a woman or young lady. If you don't act as if you want him, he will be there for you. But be nice about it. As far as having sex, you should find out how much he cares first. Tell him you will have to stop seeing him if he insists on wanting to have sex when your not ready to. If he is any kind of a decent human, he will respect that and wait for you.
2006-08-07 18:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by watersprings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is immature. that in a nutshell is the answer. fleshing it out, he is insecure, feels inadequate, fears commitment, ad infinitum.
Hell, he might even be a virgin or inexperienced in sex and feels that he might not perform to your standards because you come across as being much more experienced. you two need to sit down and frankly discuss the problem. if he will not do that, go find someone older with whom you will feel much more comfortable with. in the meantime, he needs to get some experience under his belt. a couple of years in teh Army would do wonders for him. good luck. also, watch for Genital Herpes.
I have seen a factoid that 50% of all girls between 14 and 16 are positive for same. Always carry your own protection with you. that means condoms at the minimum. and oral sex will give it to you as quickly as unprotected anal or vaginal sex. snuff.
2006-08-07 18:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by schuetzen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is perfectly normal for guys. He's afraid of commitment; it comes from our genes because in the wild the father never stays with the mother. You should talk to him about it; tell him that sex will come from a commited relationship only. He will grow out of it.
2006-08-07 17:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like the way he is around well im happy for you, but it sounds like u dont, if you are not secure in the relationship dont do have intercourse with him it might just make things worse. Talk to him, and ask why he acts that way it might help the relationship in different ways.
2006-08-07 18:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not the overbearing type then you must be a sure and confident woman.Don't let him rush you into sex.Tell him about your concerns with the intimidation.I haven't seen you,but you must be attractive.Or just a very confident person.Ask him why he repeatedly comes back.And being who you are,what exactly is he looking for in this relationship.
2006-08-07 19:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Wayne P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that you are HOT and that he feels like he's carrying a treasure chest on thin ice. If he thinks he doesn't deserve a woman like you, he may be intimidated by the fact that you might realize you are better than him.
Some Sigmund Frued Sh...tuff
2006-08-07 17:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18... i know I'm younger than you but...
my advice would be to wait... you wouldn't want to end up pregnant and then broken up... that wouldn't be good...
I wish you the best of luck
im sure he is afraid that he will fall madly in love with you
and that you will end up not loving him the same way...
that thought alone would freak anyone out.
2006-08-07 17:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋