well am 17 and my ex gf is 15 we were going out for a year and a half and i really love her coz iv knowin her since we were kids and iv liked her since then. but what it is we started going out a year and a half ago and we got on really well and had a lot ov fun but i only got to see her at the weekends coz she lived away from me and we wrote letters to each other and she kept telling me she loved me and if she ever got asked out she would say no but a few weeks ago we started going down hill and i found a letter that she wrote to a frend and it said in it she cheated on me with 2 other guys and i asked her about it and she said none of it was true then we had a argument coz she niver wanted to see me and i was trying my hardist so see her so i got drunk one night and cut myself and when she found out she finished with me then tryed to turn all my frends on me so i lost all my frends family job evrything for her but i found out the other night that she did have another bf what do i do?
2006-08-07 17:47:20 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i dont cut my self now but its hard to get over her coz i love her that much i cant take it much more
2006-08-07 17:56:15 · update #1
just to clear somthing up ok in the uk u have to be 18 to BUY aclohol but its easy enough to get somone to buy it for u !!!!
2006-08-07 18:14:19 · update #2
aaww poor u!!!! r u feeling any better?hope u r! first thing is you realli shouldnt be drinking wen ur down its just gna make u worse and wnt help at all!!!! secondly DO NOT cut yourself thats def not going to help you i no ur upset and angry but it realli will be better for you if you stop doing these two things.your ex obviously wasnt good enough and didnt deserve you so she is def not worth cutting yourself and drinking over!!! try to occupy your self by getting out with friends and making up with those who you have fallen out with during the split with your ex!!keep telling urself that you are too good for her and its her loss!! i no it seems realli hard now but try to focus on something else like trying to get a new job!shes not worth al of this!!!!and although it may not seem like something your thinking about right now but you will find someone much better and alot nicer who deserves you and that you deserve!!! hope this helps!!!!!
2006-08-09 03:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fresh so, it will be hard right now. However, she did you wrong and who you love, is not the same person who is now. She is a lying cheating ****. Not the person you started to date in the begin. People change and you need to come to terms with it on your own and own way.
There isn't a magical way to get over someone or an easy "to do" list that does. Everyone is different and has their own ways that just happens with out pre planning.
Just have to give yourself time and know what she is now isn't who she was before. Know she done wrong and you deserve better than that. Get your life together. Get your job, re gain your family and make new friends.
Let her be that person and you have no part in it. People will start to see who she really is and she will loose more than you did. If she comes crawling back, give her the cold shoulder. She deserves it.
Focus on yourself and a new lady will come into your life. You might get a few bad ones but learn how to choose a good from bad. You will get a good one. Still young and still got years of experience to go through.
2006-08-07 18:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i started my first love at 14 i did the same to him, we left it for a while got back together when we were more mature at 18, got married at 19 been married for 12 years now, he's the best thing in my life, i feel so bad about what i did, and i really learned my lesson i would never look at another man again, we've got 3 beautiful kids together. I think at that age you have a lot of pressure on you to experiment i know i did thats what made me do it not just from friends but people a lot older, telling me it wasn't natural just to have the 1 man in your life never to know anyone else! Theres hope yet!
2006-08-12 11:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by Paula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you need any professionaly help...I've done almost the same thing. I was goin out with my ex boyfriend for about a year when i found out that he had cheated on me...he was the first person i have ever really loved. I decided to forgive him and take him back but i kept finding out that he was cheatin on me and i was so depressed we ended up breakin up and then he started to tell A WHOLE LOT of rumors about me at school sayin that i was cheating on him by having sex with other guys A LOT of other guys...everybody totally believed him. I ended up gettin really depressed and i cut myself...WOW THAT WAS THE STUPIDEST THING I HAVE EVER DONE IN MY LIFE! Now i have to live with this scar forever. But i just moved on, it was hard...very hard! But i started goin out with another guy just to get my mind off of other things and he is now currently my boyfriend and we've been goin out for almost 2 years. So i guess all i got to say is you will get over it, it will just take time and effort.
2006-08-14 16:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by HUNNiiE DiiP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one you need serious help with try
www.childline.org.uk
0800 1111
Youth Access www.nya.org.uk
+44 (if not in UK) or 0 if in uk 2087729900
www.ruthinking.co.uk
0800282930
www.there4me.com
Screw her ... Nasty peince of work. If she wanted to see other guys she should have broken up without you and offered to be friends... As she did not she messed you up and that is her responsibility.
You have reacted due to your treatment.
And now she smashed your social life?
Id get her back for that
Sleeping around does not make you a stutty ***** type person.
Her behavour in regards to you does...
Many porn stars or swingers into multiple parnters are far more decent people as they treat others right and I would never use a word like **** with them.
Its the nasty attiude of treating others like dirt that warrents it
2006-08-07 20:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be tough, your life hasn't even started good yet. Give yourself some time to grow on the inside. Young loves can cause serious growing pains my dear. Believe me time does heal these things and one day she will just be a fading thought. And truly if that is they way she is, count your blessing that you got out of that relationship. Before you got something else out of it, if you know what I mean. Lots of rank stuff out there packaged pretty. Be careful and safe!
2006-08-07 18:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by BEENSADOON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 17 and you shouldn't be getting drunk and this cutting yourself is way out of line--and it didn't work did it?
It sounds terribly harsh, but move on. If she cared, she would have moved away from you gently, not by trying to turn everyone you know against you. Even if she doesn't love you, that is way out of line and if she cared about you as a human being, she wouldn't do that. She is uncaring and selfish, move on.
2006-08-07 17:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what i am not going to give you no bs i know its hard to get over someone but you can do it i had a bf for two years almost three he cheated on me with more then four people i cried for what seemed like forever but you will get over her.
I am now married to someone who i love very much i thought i would never love again but i love my husband more than i have ever loved anyone. You will get over her just take it day by day trust me i know what you going throw.
Good luck and don't ever hurt yourself again because no one is worth that
2006-08-07 18:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if shes like that then she doesnt deserve u..u 2 wer very much in love, but yer gonna hav to move on bcuz if the love isnt mutual , theres nuthin u can do..im srry that she turned everyone against u..but there will be that one girl that will understand, and be able to love u the way u love her..i hope u find that girl..and dont look for yer answers at the bottom of a beer bottle, it wont work..u need to work this out wit yerself and find someone else to love, bcuz she isnt worth it..i hope u do ok hun,and i hope u will be able to move on..i luv ya hun, bye and gd luck..and dont do anything to harsh (cutting,drinking, sucide) just wait it out and you'll be able to make it..try talkin to a professional..gd luck!!!!
2006-08-07 18:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she isnt worth it trust me ive been there before.im 21,my first love was when i was 16,he did the same said he really cared denied all the rumours and then he pissed off.
The truth is your too young to settle down,you want to enjoy yourself,and dont think you will never meet anyone because you will and one day things will go your way.honest.it will hurt but not for long,keep busy and dont let a girl put you down shell love it.
2006-08-07 23:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Sammie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋