How do you confront your insecurities?

Question

If you know and understand your faults as a person, how do you supress them, assuming that you even try to?

Answer 1

I do not try to surpess them, more like to integrate them and be aware of them as they come up. I believe I learn from them and that knowing myself in this way helps me be more sensitive and humble, which does not always come naturally to me! I also feel like a more complete and genuine person with them, even though it can be very uncomfortable. In certain situations I will consciously breathe and bring forth my own confidence and courage so that my insecurities will not direct me, although sometimes they definitely sing loudly in my head! Its funny because almost no one would really think this or know this unless I told them, but it does sometimes happen. To all of us, I would think
so I dont really "confront" them, I just explore them sometimes. When I am judgemental of others is a good time to do this because often whats behind it is my own insecurity!

Answer 2

I usually have to be pushed, sadly. But not in the normal way as most..

Mine is by when I am hurt by someone I love.

If they hurt me, I feel the need to be stronger and more independent.. If I feel insecure I or have been even verbally hurt, I usually turn the insecurity into a positive by pushing myself to accomplish my goals.......

If I am comfortable, I let my own goals slide... And tend to put everyone before me... Sad isn't it... But hey I am just being honest...

I look at this as being a fault because I do not like this about myself and I want to change it...
I have a hard time understanding that I am important too... So yes I suppress it for so long until I can't take it anymore and no this is not a good way to be... That is why I want to fix it...........!

Bottom line, try your best to live a balanced view of taking care of your self because I think it makes for a better you... Which in turn, gives everyone around you a better relationship with you...

Answer 3

You must learn to believe in the true value of your life. No person on this planet is better than you. We all have insecurities, and mainly because some people live under the illusion that they are better than you, makes this lie even worse. We all have faults, this only means that we are human beings that are never perfect. Perfection is a myth. You must learn to love yourself, faults and all. All we can do this try to do better each day and let go of the past. Take it easy on yourself, you should not be so hard on yourself. I struggle with this issue also. Make it a habit of letting go of judging yourself too harshly, it takes time like any habit, but make new and positive habits that celebrate the good things that make you a wonderful person. I hope both of us can make this journey of healing and loving ourselves no matter what.

Answer 4

dont supress them deal with them!
one of my biggest faults is i let people f*ck me over a lot, say mean things, take advantage of me, or annoy me and i suppress it and i llet it all build up until one day they do something little and i just blow up at them and i look f*cking insane. so if i start to get into a close friendship or more than that i tell them right from the start that i do that. so they know, and then i work on it throughout the relationship by telling them how i feel.
also another insecury- i think im fat. i KNOW im not, but im not skinny and so becuase im not skinny my brain thinks im fat. so now im dealing with it. im running, im eating right.
once more example- im shy. i cant help it. im not social, and i only like my group of 3. they all went out on weekends and met boys and had fun with other people but i did not like that and i still dont. but i always felt left out when they told me stories about hhow much fun they had. so i decided i need to face i! i started going with them sometimes, and putting myslef in social situations and uncomfortable settings. it gets less and less uncomfortable each time and i start to feel better about it.

i dont know what oyour insecurity is. whether is changeable, unchangeable. but i think you should not try to supress it. you should face it, improve it, work on it, accept it. good luck.

Answer 5

You're too young to know all your faults yet. But, oh sure, do suppress them. Let them add up for awhile, kinda let them ferment like some 90 year old bird nest soup or something. Add a dash of finding out that no matter how long your list is of your faults, other people who know you will have even LONGER lists of your faults to share with you. Just be patient and let it stew awhile. Collect as many faults about you that you can possibly imagine or predict and add them to the kettle. Now, turn up the heat some, because you're going to grow up and start making REAL mistakes, start finding out how REALLY flawed and stupid and weak and fragile and incompetent you are. That's some of the BEST spice in this dish called life. And, that's just the normal wear and tear of regular life. Bring to full boil. Get drunk and accidently kill a little kid in a car crash. Lose your legs in a war that turns out bogus. Hold your mom in your arms when you're all alone and watch her die because you didn't have the gumption to make enough man of yourself to be able to afford the healthcare she needed. Watch your kids go without toys or nice clothes or a good education, not reach their full potential because you dropped out of highschool and can't get a decent job. Go without a human touch for years and years and years because you got old and you got all alone in the world. And, now the finale: You're dying in your electric hospital bed in some dingy back room of a group home for the elderly and holding my hand. And, then, after you die, and after the funeral home has come and taken your body and I'm still in your room looking around at the last of your bits and pieces, which don't amount to much . . . your family's pictures on the wall, your cheap slippers, your stained sheets, the very odors of you . . . they dissolve away into bags and trash cans and the bustle of getting the room ready for someone else. And, in that moment, in that sacred cusp, you become a memory. And you're gone and none of it matters anymore, all your petty insecurities. I get in my car and drive to a river where I take your Kettle of Insecurities. I haul it to the river for you as I had promised to do, and I dump the whole, foul, rotten mess in to the water so that even that final bit of you is washed away into nothingness. And, then, I do a remarkable thing. I UNDERSTAND! Our Kettles of Insecurities aren't real. We just imagine them, make them up, and, life is too short and precious to defile with such muck. I let go of all the crap we do to ourselves and all the crap we let others do to us that reduce us and make us feel flawed, that sour our spirits and devours our lives. I decide to simply live and do my best and to never feel bad about myself EVER again. That's all we can do, you know, because Fate deals the cards. I pour my own foul Kettle of Insecurities into the river. And, then, I live happily ever after.

Answer 6

head on, and it takes practice of doing things you are not neccessarily comfortable with at first, little things whatever they may be, then soon you are ready to jump out in the middle of the ocean for a twnety thousnad league under the sea adventure

Answer 7

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It is vital to attack them head on. But with that said, I would advise you that you must make some side stepts and seek help from others. Actually, experience is the best teacher, you need to seek someone who has been there and done that.

Answer 8

i avoid situations where i would have to confront my insecurities, but i find that the more you deal with them, the less they bother you, so i've learned to like myself better. i'm also an undying optimist so i cope like that.

Answer 9

By not focussing too much on them. When you replace them with something positive- thoughts and actions, they will slowly fade away.

Answer 10

By positive self-talk and affirming my own credibility.