What do you think of a guy who say HE HAS TO HAVE a child to make his Mother happy......instead of saying .......he would LOVE to have a child.????
Also> his mother already is a grandmother
How would you feel if your parents told you the only reason they had you was to make Grandma happy.......It would make me very sad
2006-08-07 17:21:25 · 77 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
f*ck him
get somone else
2006-08-07 17:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by Emily B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on his cultural background. In some cultures, it is important for a son to have a child, especially a male child to 'carry the name' into the next generation.
For example, are his mum's other grandchildren from her daughters?
I think it is possible that he is neither a liar nor a bullshitter.
It is possible that he is afraid, may be of you, he is trying to 'hide behind' his mum, or using her as an excuse because he is afraid of telling you he would love to have a child with you. But the main point is that the fact that his mum wants him to have a child doesn't mean he wouldn't love to have one.
I would think that, sure if my parents told me that the reason I was created was to please my grandma I'd be sad, but then again, it all depends on how my parents have treated me. If my parents love me and showed it, then whether it was my Grandma's decision to have me or not wouldn't matter so much.
In conclusion I'd say, that the guy has too much of a filial streak in him as compared to the modern world; that need not make him a liar or bullshitter, just a wimp (at least on this issue).
2006-08-07 17:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by ekonomix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer: all of the above! Notice that in nothing you report here does he ever imply that he cares about you at all. This is simply a weird sort of MAC, which stands for Man Acting Crazy!
Next time you talk with him, ask the following:
1. How has your mother managed to live this long being so unhappy?
2. If babies make her happy, why isn't she happy with HER children?
3. What would you say if I told you that since you want to HAVE a baby, be my guest, you don't need me.
2006-08-07 17:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by mcjordansr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents think its there childs responsibilty to give them grandchildren.
I would be more concerned that the guy never learned to tell his mother no. Mama's boys don't make good men.
And that is not something you should ever tell your children, that's up there with,"mommy only got pregnant so dad would commit and stop sleeping around." It ma be true but a little too real for a child.
2006-08-15 12:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by therealmikebrown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys can't have children - that's a woman's job. So what he means is that he wants to have control over someone elses life, probably yours.
If his sole object in life is making mother happy, then he had better go to an orphanage and find a child for his mother to look after.
Don't have anything to do with such a small minded bigot.
2006-08-15 13:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that guy must be a lier or bullshitter but it is possible as well.May be something could be understandable when you will be Grandmother and even though you want to see one grand child from your another son because you don't know how long you will be here to see them..
If my parents say so,nothing is wrong with that bcause they are doing it for the happiness for thier own parents.Well,It is my own decison either we(I and my wife) want it or not.
2006-08-14 08:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by P5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay away from this one. Any guy who honestly believes that he should bring a child into this world to pacify his mother is truely pathetic. Talk about holding on to the apron strings! Its hard enough raising children in todays society under "normal" circumstances. But having a child that you truely didn't want? Sad, really sad. It worries me how much control that mother has over this guy. Certainly won't make for a good relationship with a woman for him with mom interferring constantly!
2006-08-07 17:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by megadoodle_dandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - that is a bit strange. I don't think it necessarily makes him a liar or a bullshitter, though.
I would tread warily, if I were you. He's either a) rather too tightly tied to his mother's apron strings or b) highly manipulative.
Bottom line - never, ever feel you have to get pregnant in order to make someone else happy. It has to be on your own terms, and in your own time.
2006-08-07 18:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy may not be a liar or bullshitter, but he has some issues. To concerned about what his parents think, and not about what he wants. It's good to be considerate to your parents (I love mone to bits and would do almost anything for them) but I draw the line when it would impact a life decision like starting a family.
2006-08-07 17:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is the difference between a liar and a bullshitter. I don't think that this question is very valid. to your second question, I think that most people enjoy life. Kids who are adopted don't like that they were not wanted at all, but the live with it and go on to live successful lives.
2006-08-15 15:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a mama's boy. he may not be a liar, just simply wants to draw attention or to make a fuss about a real problem which he doesn't know or doesn't want to accept as being a problem. I think that having a child is being loved and loving someone and changing attitude to a more responsible way of seeing matters in a relationship.
2006-08-14 19:51:40 · answer #11 · answered by queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋