I GOT OFFERED A JOB AT THE CASINO AS A WAITRESS WE HAVE TO WEAR THE SEXY SWIMSUIT WITH THE SHORT RUFFLE SKIRT AND FISHNET STOCKINGS AND HEELS MY BOYFRIEND SAYS ITS DEGRADING MY BODY,I SAY ITS BRINGING HOME $100-$500 A NIGHT IN TIPS. IS IT DEGRADING OR AM I WRONG FOR CONSIDERING THE JOB????????
2006-08-07 17:20:06 · 33 answers · asked by minnie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you feel comfortable doing the job and feel confident about how you handle the come ons you will be baraged with, then it is not degrading. But why must you choose? Is your boyfriend bullying/threatening you that he will leave you if you take the job? Then he isn't worth keeping around. On the other hand, if he is expressing his discomfort with your choice to do so, he has a right to his feelings-talk to him and if you care about him then you will take his feelings into consideration. And he, yours. Make the decision together.
2006-08-07 17:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by ontheroadagainwithoutyou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take That Job, Because Boyfriends Come And Go And Good Jobs With Those Kind Of Tips Don't Always Come?
2006-08-07 17:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend doesn't sound so insecure. Just concerned. After all, if he were offered a similar job, how would you feel about it? And if he REALLY doesnt want you to take this job, will you pick a job and money or your boyfriend of two years? It depends on what kind of person you are, really. But I'd pick the boyfriend.
2006-08-07 17:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Melonball 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel comfortable with yourself is what counts-however what is your financial situation do you need this job or can your man support you both?It is not degrading you are a waitress in a casino not a stripper so get that out of your head .What you need to consider is your bf feelings and if at this point he can support you both,because that is how I would handle it If I was offered that kind of money to work and I enjoyed my job He better be able to take care of me if he doesn't want me to work.Why work as a cashier at min wage when you have been offered this position to make better money.This is a hard one girl you are really going to have to make up your own mind and then sit down and talk about your decision
2006-08-07 17:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not a job for everyone....If you are comfortable with it though then its not degrading to you...If your boyfriend loves you, he should be understanding and support you on this. If he loves you he should be able to trust you and not be insecure......
In saying this, I dont like the fact that you think of the money, because if you do it for the money, then what more would you be willing to do for the right price is a question you need to ask your self honestly....Always enjoy what you do but never let the money dictate to you as you could get your self in trouble.....
Do what you love but never let the money take away your self respect and integrety....
2006-08-07 17:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its degrading but I dont think you should not do it just because your boyfriend says not to. He cant control your life, as you own it not him. But I would seriously think about it, especially if you have children because you need to set a good example for them. But $100 to $500 in tips is practically the norm w or without a sluty costume on, so I'd think you would getmore tips than that if you were to do it. Casinos have alot of people comming and going so i'd think you would be getting over 500 in tips working at a casino.
But I wouldnt no for sure as iv never worked on a casino nor waitressed before. But its not something that I would do, I think you would have to have pretty low self esteem to allow yourself to be degraded like that:(
2006-08-07 17:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by chicata25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you come first cause if he was doing his part in whatever he wouldn't be so insecure about you. Cause hes afraid that another guy might love you better. I kid you not, it happens all the time. The thing is when you look good a insecure man don't want you to be looked at. and oh yeah it's your job b/c when hes gone what you going to have then...............no job!!
2006-08-07 17:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Kaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Minnie, no it's not degrading! Some people will tell you that it is but if you are happy and confident then GO FOR IT! Your boyfriend needs to learn to be more secure in your relationship.
He sounds like he may be a bit worried about you doing this.
Talk to him, tell him that he is the only one for you.
Stay positive and be confident!
Good luck
2006-08-08 03:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya honestly it is degrading, when you have drunks all around you giving you tips cause they like what they see. its degrading. you might as well work in a strip bar as far as i am concerned. i would take what he says into consideration, he dont want people to degrade you. it has nothing to do with jelousy or anything. he cares enough about you to let you know these things are bad. so ya i would look for another job. i mean this job is not going to be there for you when you are old and grey, but your man of two years just might be and i would rather have him than the job.
2006-08-07 17:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this bf insecure about everything you do? if so, just do what you think is right.
Is this a deal breaker for your relatonship? Is the money what you need really really bad?
If you and the bf are forever relatiionship then you need to take his wishes in to consideration. If not do what you have to do to surrive.
Sounds like he would be insecrue no matter what you do
2006-08-07 17:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋