2006-08-07 17:12:35 · 27 answers · asked by lex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He needs professional help.
2006-08-07 17:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's pervin out! if your husband is obsessed with porn to the point where he doesn't want to have sex with you, than he's getting addicted to porn. he loses his desire for you, because he's getting sexual release when he watches those films and doesn't have anything to give you. there are a lot of people that have this problem, but it's mainly tied to men. if you and your husband want your marriage to survive, then he needs to see a therapist. if he doesn't want to go, then you need to start making some choices about your relationship. a friend of mine went through this with her husband and it lasted 3 years. he told her he didn't have a problem with it and when she didn't see the tapes/dvd's anymore, she figured he was telling her the truth - but their sex life didn't improve. she found out later, that he was just hiding them from her and watching them when she was asleep or not around. she came home 1 day and found a tape in the vcr, that he forgot to eject. this hurt her tremendously, because he lied to her and that kept her in the relationship.
this is very serious and something you have to nip in the bud, as they say or it will only continue. he'll profess that he doesn't have a problem, but he does and it's been detrimental to your marriage. talk to your husband and if he truly loves you, he'll make a change. unfortunately, most people that have an addiction are also in denial. good luck to you!
2006-08-08 00:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by mangosmoothie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get RID of the pornography... It can easily become an addiction and difficult to "get off" without it's assistance..
Take a stand now.... Let him know that the pornography HAS to go (better yet, get it gone for him...while he's gone to work) Then talk with him about agreeing NOT to even consider sex or any sexual thoughts for 14 days.... (diliberately put them out of your/his mind when they arise) Then you two make love and focus on making love..not getting "freaky"..... Abstain from getting too "freaky" for a while....
That's the only way I can tell you that you will break the pornography situation.... It's REAL... Don't listen to someone who tells you that it won't hurt a relationship... It can, will and it does every day...
If he loves you, this won't be a problem, just an opportunity for the two of you to move in a different direction. Good Luck....
2006-08-08 00:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unlike some responders i think you should seek counseling befor you give up on the whole matrimony thing.
or you could talk to him. he may just be in a period where the same woman every night and day has made him comfortable and lazy. which leeds him to get his excitemnet from something different. i do agree with some of the other posters in the idea of you joining him watching the porn.
if you can share life with him, you can share porn with him.
2006-08-08 00:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by JCCamel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks..my husband would rather have sex with me than watch porn. If you catch him watching porn..sit down beside him and see what comes of it. He may feel weird..or he may think it's the hottest thing...next thing ya know he wants the real thing all the time. Atleast that how it works with my husband. Sometimes i wished he'd keep his hands to himself...
2006-08-08 00:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm make your own porn film for him just you sexy under-ware and toys and tell him this is the only porn from now on and you expect..him in bed when he's watched it
2006-08-08 00:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is quite abnormal on his part but there can b fault on ur part.lemme ask u a question:do u expt. with ur husband during sex?if not then try it and u wud c the chng.this may b reason.at times try to b agressive with him while sexual encounters.giv him what he is longing for.actually he want sexually expressive and women with him in bed.giv that to him
2006-08-08 00:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every married guy i know like to have some sex besides the same thing even if it's porn. imagine if HUSTLER magazine had the same woman in every picture in every magazine.
2006-08-08 00:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't say much about you sexually then does it? What can you do to change this? Take a good look at you in the mirror, and answer your own question!
2006-08-08 00:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say watch pornos with him. And see if you get a reaction, its simple and I bet it works. Try it tonight!!!! have fun, by the way wear somthing sexy when you walk pass the TV:) good luck sweetie!
2006-08-08 00:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋