2006-08-07 16:53:30 · 10 answers · asked by desperate needing answers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
start with a closet first
2006-08-07 16:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you really can do is love them. B/C if you attack them, it will push them further away to where you can't try to help them anymore. Being gay is a choice they are making, and at the moment their feelings are telling them it feels right. Hopefully they may come around, and maybe you can be a part of that. I think your course of action (at least with your son) depends upon how you raised him. I mean, what was he taught about the subject. Was he taught that he would burn in heck for it, cuz that's not true. Homosexuality is a sin like any other sin. And people who are tempted by it much fight that temptation every day. Let him know you love him no matter what, even though you will not support nor approve this lifestyle.
When you feel there's a right moment, you could try and gently remind him that this is not how he's supposed to be. If you have a close relationship and have shared humor, you could try the old look at your plumbing approach, LOL, i.e., the anatomy of a man and a woman fit perfectly together whereas any other possible pairing (woman-woman, man-man) simply doesn't fit. But again remind him you love him no matter what, as does God, and that you are ready to help him whenever he is ready to help himself. The biggest thing I could say to do is pray. God is more powerful than anything you could do.
2006-08-08 00:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I think THEY need "advice" on how to redirect YOU, since you don't seem to be able to accept them for who they are. Your son and his friend will be gay whether you like it or not, so you might as well get over it and be the supportive parent your son deserves. Good luck to your son, it's so hard for someone to be gay and have a homophobic parent...
2006-08-08 02:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by jellybean24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody picks their sexuality. It is the preference that they're born with. Accept him, and love him unconditionally. Be prepared to LISTEN when he talks to you. You can not "redirect" him. All changes in anyone's life are made by that person alone, when and if they decide that a change must be made. If you push him to change, you'll just end up pushing him away.
2006-08-08 00:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should redirect your son and his friend thats just who they are
2006-08-08 00:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I HATE TO TELL YOU THIS BUT I DO NOT THINK YOU ARE GOING TO CHANGE NOTHING...JUST ACCEPT THE FACT HE IS GAY AND GET OVER IT..I KNOW ITS HARD..I WONT WANT MY SON TO BE GAY BUT GAYS CANT BE STRAIGHT AND STRIAGHTS CANT BE GAY
2006-08-08 00:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by AMERICAN_YANKEE35 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him all the bad things that would happen to him and hope he scared back into being straight.
2006-08-08 00:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Nicholais S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to redirect them... its their choice.
2006-08-08 00:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do they sit close together or have there hands on each other if not no!
2006-08-08 01:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by pooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start with a loaded gun!
2006-08-07 23:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by L' K '06 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋