this morning my fiance found more downloaded adult movies on our computer after i promised her over and over again i wouldnt do it. she says it makes her feel that i dont find her attractive enough, and now she is really upset that she is fat and ugly but she's 7 months pregnant is it the hormones making her upset? she hung up on me today and she wont talk to me. have i really done something wrong? or is it jus me. if so what can i do to make her happy?
2006-08-07 16:52:42 · 22 answers · asked by nadsie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Bottom line: you broke your word! You made a promise not to download porn, and you did it anyway. The content is not as important as the fact that you lied to her. She is carrying your child and she has discovered that she can't count on you to keep your word over something simple. Not to mention she is probably feeling vulnerable because she is carrying extra weight because of the pregnancy. You really shot down her self-esteem by looking at the porn. You need to be sensitive to how she is feeling right now and above all DON'T MAKE PROMISES YOU HAVE NO INTENTION OF KEEPING!
2006-08-07 17:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by songbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think she is being controlling, but I guess a lot of women just don't understand the difference between sex and love.
So why do you need the new porn material, and why is this such a problem to her?
She has a right to be mad because you promised her. Although I think forbidding you from porn is childish, and she is the one with the issues.
I am sure hormones from being pregnant plays a part. It makes some women crazy.
2006-08-07 16:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by leahlovesspam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize big time! Take her out for a very romantic dinner and a movie where she can rest. And tell her how sorry you are for making her feel that way. That she is beautiful carrying your child. Then tell her it has nothing to do with how you attracted to her, but just a guy thing. Otherwise, if you don't fess up to why you do it now, you'll be fighting about through your marriage. Be open and honest!
2006-08-07 17:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't lie and say you won't download porn if you intend to keep doing it. Some women hate the idea of their men looking at porn, and you'll never change that kind of woman. You have to decide what is more important. If you need a porn fix, can't you look at it elsewhere so she has no idea? I don't advocate sneaking around, I think it sucks, but I also think it sucks when you have a partner who wants to control you in some way...which is what she wants to do with the porn. As I said, the people who are totally against it, won't change, so if you love her, you have to, a little...don't view it at home, she will most likely NEVER accept it, and it will effect your relationship.
2006-08-07 17:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has every right to be mad at u.U broke her trust when u promised to never look or download porn again.She is carrying your child and being in that condition makes her more sensitive and easier to upset but even if she wasn't pregnant u should be begging for her forgiveness.When u give your word u keep ur word. u have alot of making up and butt kissing to do
2006-08-07 17:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by crude_n_rude2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, shes feeling insecure and probably has raging hormones.
If you told her you wouldn't... then you shouldn't have.
Plus, look at the fact .. you lied to her and went behind her back
Right now..you need to treat your fiance with kid gloves.
She's pregnant and feels unattractive.
To make up..I would suggest doing some nice things for her and make her feel great about herself again.
Tend to her needs, take her out, cook her dinner. Massage her feet.
Just spoil her alittle.
2006-08-07 16:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by satckaren72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you wronged her because you already promised her to not download more porn. Doing this at a time when she's pregnant does not help either. Have her delete all of your porn.
2006-08-07 17:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by starr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Should' is kind of a dumb word, but the fact is that you lied to her. Nobody likes to be lied to. Most women, including myself, seem to find pornography disgusting.
And if she's 'fat and ugly' by being pregnant, I assume you had something to do with it.
Is she really your fiancee, that is, do you really intend to marry her and spend a lifetime with her? If so, fella, GROW UP.
To make her happy, be truthful to her, treat her with love, kindness and affection. And especially while she's pregnant, rub her feet.
2006-08-07 17:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by huztuno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave her your word of honor that you wouldn't do something and then you went ahead and did it anyway. No wonder she is angry with you. She has every right. You need to take a serious look at your relationship if you can lie so easily to her and still wonder if you have done anything wrong.
2006-08-07 17:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he helped plan it, how in the worldwide did not he understand what you have been doing??? additionally i think of it is slightly nuts that he drove on your sister's homestead to get your digicam to ascertain your photos on it. I additionally think of it is unhappy which you will marry him and he does not believe you. enable him be mad. it is ridiculous that he's even indignant approximately some thing that HE planned.
2016-11-04 02:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋