my husband has cheated on me before, I thought things could get better but here latley we have been fighting alot and he has been staying out later , and tonight when he came home he went straight to the shower and after he got out he took his dirty clothes to the bedroom with him,and went to sleep, and yesterday I found out he gave some girl a ride on the harley , I am getting a gut feeling again, should I get out of it or what?
2006-08-07 16:46:05 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By what you have posted, yes...he's definitely cheating. Go with your gut instinct. He will never change unless he really wants to. Unfortunately, from his history and by the way he's acting lately, I bet he's back to his old ways. Get yourself a divorce lawyer and don't put up with this anymore. I know it's easier said than done but you must remember that YOU deserve better than this. Also remember that in order for the marriage to work, there has to be trust and you don't seem to have any for him anymore (I don't blame you though). Living your life wondering if he's cheating is NOT the way to a successful marriage. Leave before it destroys your self esteem.
2006-08-07 17:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me like your gut feeling is the truth..why does he think it's OK to cheat and do it again hm mm I don't know some ppl just don't get relationships. You need to be strong put your foot down draw the line in the sand say this is how we have a nice relationship that's healthy or you will go leave and get a man who will behave how married people r supposed to behave.
2006-08-07 23:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend who did me like that. So I got out of that relationship I know your saying y'all married but he obviously don't respect your marriage cause if he did he would BE cheating on you. Cause #1 if he LOVE you , no matter how mad he gets at you a real man would try to work the situation. He probably (being the boyfriend I had ) want to get out of the relationship and figure cheating is the only way instead of admitting that he doesn't want you anymore
2006-08-07 23:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Kaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always trust your gut. The fact that he has cheated on you before along with the details you provided about his behavior doesn't seem encouraging. Whether or not you should end the marriage is something you have to decide for yourself. Maybe you just haven't had your fill of his philandering yet.
2006-08-07 23:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to read the writing on the wall by now. You went through this once. What do you think? It sounds pretty fishy to me!
Do you like living this way? How do you feel when you know that he is out acting like a single guy? Are you content to be one of his "girls?"
I would advise using a condom. Who knows where he has been or who he has been with. You don't want to catch something from him.
2006-08-07 23:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get even before getting out! Find out for sure, if he is. Would he think it was cheating if you rode on a Harley with another guy? Start dressing more sexy, and get nails done and hair done-hire a babysitter and go out youself-stop worrying about a grown man.
2006-08-07 23:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by crosseyed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far did the cheating go last time? Is the behavior the same? Or are you so fearful that you can't be yourself and he can't relate to you like this? You need trust to have a relationship.
2006-08-07 23:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by whozethere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he has done it b4 he may have done it again, i think you should sit down wit him and say" we are having problems can we talk about them?" then ask him striaght up "are you cheating?" and yea he will get mad but you remind him he made a promise to you.....and then after that so ok and drop it, i personaly do not believe in dovorice unless he or she is abuvive.
2006-08-07 23:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he's cheating on you. But, sounds like you already know this to be the case.
If I were you, I'd file for divorce in the morning. No joke. Before you end up with HIV or HPV or Herpes.
2006-08-07 23:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut, he's already slipped up, why wait for more proof. The shower thing when he gets home is a dead giveaway!
2006-08-07 23:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋