I recently posted a question saying that I was wondering why even though my father found out I was gay from my cousin and was okay with it, why hadn't he mentioned anything to me. I thought that maybe he was secretly ashamed or uncomfortable. Well, I just got off the phone with him, and when I brought it up, he said that he was okay with it. He said he was not ashamed and would tell anyone who asked that that was just my preference( he said for now,which tells me he thinks it might only be short-term,but still he accepts it) and that this is a new millenium and 2006, and times have changed and it doesn't matter who I date. Now,, I have both my parent's blessings, even though I still would have continued to date women anyway, but now I know I have their support. Isn't this great?
2006-08-07 16:32:30 · 20 answers · asked by indrep33 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
To Joel M. :
If you're going to respond to my answers, please learn how to read. I never once said that I was afraid to tell my father that I was gay, now did I? What I said was that I was wondering why he hadn't mentioned to me that he knew. You said that you believe deep down that gays know hat what they are doing is wrong. Is this realy true sweetie, because if I was ashamed of it, I wouldn't be doing it. I donothing that i am ashamed of. And for every 1 person like you who think that your words or anything else that you do will bring us down, there are 10 of us that will rise and prosper from it. So, please, save yourself some time and go sprad the hate that you have to someone who cares because it will get you nowhere with the gays. Thank you and have a nice day.
2006-08-07 16:57:29 · update #1
It is great. I think fondly of my father whenever I think about coming out. I was in my late 20's and really not dating anybody. My father had figured out from years of dealing with me in sports activities and boy scouts, that i was gay. He just sat me down one day and said something like, "I know you and that girls are not going to work for you. Don't ever let that stop you from doing what you want to do in life. Someday you'll find the right guy, and you'll be happy. Don't let your mother discourage you." I was kind of taken back, because most people don't take me for gay, I'm pretty straight looking. You can read "straight looking" as overweight with no fashion sense.
Anyway, fathers are really special, and I miss mine. Call yours often!
2006-08-08 02:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm glad for you. Either way, you're gonna be just fine. Surround yourself with positive people and remember you'll still be your father's daughter, no matter what. Best of luck to you, darling!
Joel, you really need to chill. What's disgusting is your bashing and pure hatred, sweetie. God knows there's enough of that already! If you don't like it, then quit posting here with us "wrong and disgusting people". Stop speaking for God and society or we will have to put in motion a suggestion for an amendment to ban "stupid and hateful people"(how far will that get with Bush?).
'Nuff said.
2006-08-07 16:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, get your self a well counselor to speak to. They can support. You're no longer a foul individual in any respect, and it is correct for a father or mother to fear approximately a baby being homosexual, no longer given that being homosexual is unhealthy, however given that homosexual kids will also be unique, teased, placed down, or worse. They may have critical emotional disorders, no longer with being homosexual, however with society's impressions and reactions. You can not flip your son homosexual, he's both born homosexual or born instantly, even "unhealthy" parenting does no longer difference a individual's inherent nature. Again I urge you to paintings via those problems BEFORE you keep in mind getting married or fathering kids. And I'm sorry your dad used to be so rough, however forgive him given that his father used to be most probably even worse to him, and harboring any poor emotions closer to him will handiest harm you ultimately. that is giving him the energy to harm you time and again. however forgiving and relocating on enables you to be emotionally healthful. And sure boys have emotions too, and expressing them is higher than "manning up" as your father did.
2016-08-28 11:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not great, i'm sure your father is a good man, at least he has unconditional love for you, which is good, but being gay is still disgusting and sub-human. now i understand that you probably don't like people like me and i sure don't like gays, but we'll be civilized if you can handle that, let me ask you a question, why were you worried about telling your father that you are gay? if its ok and a normal thing to be gay, then why would it be an issue for you to tell him and post your concern on yahoo answers, i know what you are going to say, that its because people like me, but we both know thats not the truth, i think that all gay people know in their hearts that being gay is the wrong way to live and they know it, i think thats the real answer why they don't want to tell everybody, when a so-called gay person is nervous about telling people they are gay and are scared what people think, that they will think negative about it, maybe its the wanna be gays that are wrong not everyone else, i do not and will not accept disgusting lifestyles that decay our society, i just hope you find your way on the right path and we both know you know what that is
2006-08-07 16:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by Joel M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say that is wonderful. You can live as who you wish without regrets and be able to fully grow into the person you were born to be.
2006-08-07 16:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by quikzip7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEs, I am happy for you..it is very difficult for a parent to turn their back on a child...I could never do that. Good luck.
2006-08-07 16:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!! That is so great, you are quite lucky to have such accepting and loving parents.
2006-08-07 18:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by me41987 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's great. Good for you and your open minded, loving family. We all need open minded, loving parents like yours!
2006-08-07 16:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's wonderful. Congrats. It is so wonderful when someone we love accepts us for who we are. I wish everyone could be as lucky!
2006-08-07 19:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and hopefully your parents continue to support you as you discover more about yourself and your goals, it is what family is all about.
2006-08-07 16:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋