For those going through it, at what point did your relationship SOUR and turn into a "friendship"?

Question

And if you lived together, when did your house turn into a "dorm". What is it like to live together without trust, sex, and fallen out of love.

What is it like for two people living like that, especially if both may have love interests outside the relationship and basically staying together for kids & money?

Answer 1

First of all........if it is like that, do not stay together for the kids. The kids will be happier if you are happy. They are alot smarter than you know, and if you both are miserable they will be too.

Divorce hurts, but being together in misery hurts even worse. Take a break from each other and maybe you will find that it is what you needed to find yourselves again.

Once you start feeling that way, you have lost yourself, and you need to find you again.

Answer 2

There isn't one obvious point where you say "just friends." It happens slowly over a long period of time. You get busy with life and forget that the relationship needs attention.

After a while you sort of fall into your own little world and don't realize that the spouse has done this, too.

It is misery to live like that. You get no satisfaction from the relationship and you begin to resent the other person. You still have all the issues that a couple deals with, but you get none of the "fringe benefits" in return.

It is humiliating for a woman when her husband has no desire to have sex with her. She feels useless and unworthy of anyone's love. After all, if your husband doesn't want you, no one else will.

The hatred and bitterness build up and the fighting becomes a daily routine. Stay together for the kids? This is not better for the kids. I grew up in this situation and always wished my parent would divorce to make it easier on me at home.

Answer 3

I've in no way really understood how persons believe they are associates after their relationship "sours". For that thing to occur it will imply the friendship is already long gone. Staying collectively for the youngsters is just not the right thing to do either. Children can suppose the discord in the residence. Price range make the whole thing extra tricky however there's continually a technique. This doesn't sound like a good place for any of you.

Answer 4

Yeah I have been there. You thought you found your life partner and it all falls apart. I lived that way for 5 years( the first three were ok) before I had an affair /one night stand, out of state, this man didn't know me and (yes I know it was stupid) but in that one night he new me better then my boyfriend did. He gave me the strength to look for a better life. I had two children split between me and my ex husband of ten years, he had one split with his ex. I wanted to stay in the relationship because I didn't want to admit defeat or be a failure in my children's lives. The money was a factor. But On my Birthday I had, had enough and left. One of the very hardest things for me to do. I hated living as room mates and the lack of affection and respect. Life is a journey and growing everyday is an experience. It's hard but you deserve to be happy. Your children know you are miserable they are so smart. You want them to grow up knowing a loving home. You will meet someone who will give you that. But you need to be happy first, find out what makes you happy and go for it. I wish you the best, be happy and smile. Good luck!