How can I tell my wife its over?

Question

sex life totally flat, years of her threatening divorce, my desire to have passion in my life

Answer 1

My only advice: Be honest, but don't be cruel. That's all.

Answer 2

You will know when you have had enough...sounds like you are to that point, so what you need to do is....
A. Talk to her and let her know what your plans are don't tell her you want to work it out just tell her that you are done and there is nothing more to try and fix. That you have exhausted every path with her and you are just done. Let her know that it is not because there is anyone else but that you just cant take her actions anymore.

B. If you don't want to listen to her and have her guilt trip you go as far as getting the divorce drawn up....if you are really wanting out you better be the one do file first so she does not take you for everything you have, have the first say in it about what you want and don't worry about her paying half of the divorce if you want it do be over just get it done.

C. Try to be fair as weird as that sounds.....good luck.

Answer 3

Tell her that you need to have a private conversation with her. Don't take her out to dinner incase she reacts horribly but sit her down on the couch and explain to her your reasons for wanting it to be over.
Explain to her that you don't want to live your life constantly hearing threats of divorce and that you wish for passion that she just isn't providing. If she throws a fit, pack up your things, and head for the door.

Answer 4

Passion doesn't last forever and you may find yourself regretting on giving up forever. I got divorced for passion and it last two great years...passion, fighting, playing and great sex. Then, we didn't have what it took and the marriage I gave up (14 years of commitment) was over. I lost. She will find someone and you may be alone and worse than now.

Answer 5

Have you tried counseling? It takes 2 to get to this point, maybe if you find out where you both went wrong you could love each other again. The thing about marriage is yes its always a temptation to cheat but to gut it out and make the best of what you got, that is marriage and it isnt easy. Give it a chance.

Answer 6

The next time she threats divorce tell her shes right its over you dont want to be with her or in a more politely way sit her down and talk to her let her know how you feel pour out your emotions to her

Answer 7

File for divorce, she has threatened it for years. Do her the favor, and "yourself" and go file. Move out, and have the papers served to her. That should do it. Good luck to you, everyone deserves passion and companionship in their life.

Answer 8

Don't go soft , I know you will want to be. You have to be swift and firm. Take commanding action. Tell her its over and that's that , then leave , let her stew on that 4 a while. move out. get a condo. Then drink heavily and get a hooker. then wish it didn't all happen, when you wake up 2 the clap. check into a clinic, go 2 rehab and try 2 get custody of u r kid. ****, shower, and shave. go to MacDonald's. have fun.

Answer 9

I feel ya. I'm getting a divorce too. Same type issues. Just do it, sit her down, and spill it. She might feel the same way. You just gotta get it over with, and take steps to a new, better life. Good luck.

Answer 10

Just tell her. Be honest with her. If she keeps threatening to leave...next time she says it - say 'Ok'. She apparantly is not wanting to make the decision and wants to make you do it. She keep threatening but isn't woman enough to do it.

Just step up and tell her.

Honesty is always best.

It's probably what she wants anyway.

Answer 11

Have a courier serve her with divorce papers. If she has been threatening you with divorce for years, then you both get what you want.