My ex-husband told me that my pu$$y felt like someones that had been used for the male's benefit. LIke I was raped/dry sex. I feel ashamed about my body. How do I get over this, I don't want to have sex w/anyone ever again.
2006-08-07 16:12:07 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
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2006-08-07 16:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by DanE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-husband is a jerk who sensed your sensitivity over this topic and purposely said something to hurt you. That's stooping pretty low and you can thank God he is your EX-husband and not your current one anymore.
You have no need to feel ashamed of your body. It's the only body you have and will ever have and you need to feel gratitude for all of it's working parts. We need only to think of the poor souls who are crippled or quadrepelegic to remember how lucky we are and this thought keeps us in check when we feel down about our bodies.
As for feeling like you never want sex again, realize that not everyone is as hurtful as those you have known in the past. There are good people out there who WILL care for your feelings and will strive in every situation to give you all the love, respect, dignity, comfort, nurturing, and devotion that you deserve. It is all possible! So don't be down on yourself. It is just this kind of negative thinking and feeling that will attract nasty people to be mean to you because they like to kick a person when they're down. So, do things that make you happy and make your confidence soar, and then you will attract the person who will see your true self with all of it's beauty!
Wishing you all the best!
2006-08-07 16:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a bunghole.
He's just pissed that he can't have you anymore. How does he know what it feels like to be with someone who was raped? Don't feel ashamed about your body.
Take charge girl! Exercise if you think you need to. Get a manicure. Buy some new clothes. Go find yourself a man who will love you for who you are. And, if the time comes, he will enjoy the fine fruits that you have to offer him.
Tell your ex to PI*S off!
GIRLPOWER!
WHAT THE HELL IS UP WITH "Alex W". He keeps posting that crap all over the boards. Dude, get a life!
2006-08-07 16:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by I like pizza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweets, that is just the worst thing Ive ever heard. He is just being an ***. Strengthen your self up. Try some yoga lessons and fidn a nice hobby. You need to make yourself feel better. and as for your ex srew him, he is a horrible miserable person. Who needs help, and needs to realize what he says to people including you can hurt them more than he thinks. and if you really think something is wrong then see a gynecologist. Just be happy and tell yourself that guy is not worth my time. and find someone who will love you for you.
2006-08-07 16:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by lil_frosty93654 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-husband told you this because he wanted you to feel ashamed about your body and so you wouldn't want to have sex with anyone ever again. It's called manipulative behavior.
2006-08-07 16:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He succeeded in saying mean and hurtful things to be mean and hurtful. Especially something personal and private. It is amazing the damage that words can do. It takes a few years to get over the damage and hurt from a divorce and even longer if it is a really nasty one. Rather than just getting over his mean comments, you need healing for your damaged heart and injured self-esteem. You might benefit from a Divorce Care program.
2006-08-07 16:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by petlover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good reason for him to be an ex... he's an ***. He sounds immature, and demeaning. He said it to make you feel bad and worthless - like you are feeling. Don't think about what he said again... put it out of your mind. Take a class, laugh, go to a show, be positive and make new friends. Expand your mind and eventually you will find a man who likes you and doesn't insult you.
2006-08-07 16:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by JULIE J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was his intent to hurt your feelings, and cause the reaction you are describing. Who listens to their X anyways. It is your time to shine. Your chance to prove to yourself that you are an independent person capable of flying, or falling and accepting your bumps along the way. Do not listen to anyone who tries to bring you down.If you fail at something, let it be a learning experience,,, cause when you succeed, you can take the credit. Do not listen to any insults from someone who does not want you to be happy.
2006-08-07 16:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you husband told you that you need to tell him to **** off. How would he know what a rapped pussy would feel like anyway.. Maybe you need to tell him if he wants to have sex to stick his dick in his own ***.... Girl don't put up with him and don't let him put you down like that... He wants you to feel inscure so that he knows he has all the power over you and the way you feel about yourself..
like everyone always says wise up
DROP THE ZERO GET YOU A HERO!!!!
DR. insperation
2006-08-07 16:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by gipsey3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would he know what one feels like? how "experienced" is he? sounds to me like he just said that to be mean.... why is he your ex?
dont be ashamed.... nothing to be ashamed of....
was he saying you were dry inside? maybe he did not give enough foreplay to get you in the mood...
he's not your hubby anymore.... take anything he says with a grain of salt and worry more about why he says things and dont think its true just because he said so... only you know what your body is like and what it has been through.... tell your ex to get a life...
2006-08-07 16:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by Resasour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to him, he is just a jerk. every puss_ is different but that doesnt mean you have feel ashamed, some other guy might like the way it is, get over it and have all sex you want and kick your ex to the curb.
2006-08-07 16:24:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋