my boy friend likes to walk up to me and flop out his personal and expects me to react to his thing in my face or poking me in my back everytime. Sometimes it's when we first get up and his breath is bad I think he has a gum prob. Im just not awake yet but he continues to do this until I suck him off. How do I tell him it turns me OFF. I love sex but he needs a different approch. I dont always want it every morning. And if I tell him I not in the mood he'll try again in a little bit. He is getting me to the point were Im not looking forward to our time togther cause I know the first this he going to do is shake that thing at me. I never though I would feel like this I love him and sex, but this one thing he's doing is really bad for us. He has to know of other ways or is he just stupid I already asked him what he expected me to do when he does this, all he says is. I dont know. WTF I need some real feedback cause other than this thing he is great. And yes I have told about this.
2006-08-07 16:07:59 · 18 answers · asked by JustAGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow. I have a friend whose husband does this. You need to explain to him that as a woman, you like a little romance before sex. Not a penis shoved in your face. Next time he does that, turn around and ignore him. Tell him that the LAST thing you want to do is have sex when he does that. It's gross and immature. Then show him how foreplay should be done. He's being very disrespectful and you don't need to put up with that crap.
2006-08-07 16:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try giving him suggestions? Instead of just saying no or that you're not in the mood, maybe ask him to brush his teeth first, or try asking him to wait until evening (or until the weekend). Or, if it's just the way he's doing it, maybe suggest something else he can do that will turn you on (maybe massaging certain body parts?) instead of just shaking his thing at you. He doesn't sound like a bad person at all; it sounds like he would be receptive to positive suggestions. The problem with "not in the mood" is that it doesn't give him a way to appeal the decision or anything to look forward to. "Not in the mood, long day (or week) ahead, rain check for tonight (or this weekend)?" will give him a limit on how long he has to wait, so it gives him something to look forward to, and that makes waiting easier, plus it should also discourage him from trying again until the promised time because trying again before the promised time might render the promise invalid.
2006-08-07 23:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by Muralasa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't mean to laugh, but the line "other than this he's great" sort of threw me. That's like:" other than that, Mrs. Lincoln, how did you like the play?" This is the ultimate in disrespectful treatment, and I'm surprised you continue to go along with it. You must realize that as long as you do, that's going to keep on happening. Being a sex partner implies a loving amount of give and take, and consideration for the needs and feelings of your partner...you're giving, but you're definitely not getting because the implicit message here is "damn how you feel about it, get busy". You can't let that go on. There are plenty of guys who would treat you decently and take care of your needs as well. You're not a sex partner right now; you're a receptacle...do whatever you've got to do to make that stop. It's not the act that's at issue, it's the lack of respect. Respect is everything. Good luck.
2006-08-07 23:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE has a problem! You need to let him know that this could end the relationship and that you don't feel sexy or truly appreciated when he behaves like this. Tell him you fell degraded and unloved because of his childish and immature actions. Sounds like he only thinks of himself and expects you to do what ever he wants, he only cares about his pleasure and making you feel low and worthless.
IF he is such a great guy, what the H**L is wrong with him? A REAL man would not treat you like that - sure there is nothing wrong with acting like animals in bed and having great sex, but a real man treats his woman like a lady. Regardless of how weel hung the guy is or not, sounds like he thinks of you as his personal oral gratification machine - and I can tell your so much more than that.
Personally I think your guy is a loser and does not deserve a woman like you in his life. Hold out on him, don't let him have sex with you for a week or two, refuse to see him and when he does get up in the morning and shakes is d**k in your face, turn and walk away. Tell him your not interested and have other things to do.
Guys who treat women like this are rude, unkind, uncaring jerks. You deserve respect and to be appreciated.
Matt
2006-08-07 23:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by mjh3056 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This time, don't tell him about it...talk to him about it...communicate (both ways, you both talk and you both respond)...let him know his behavior is making the relationship unpleasant for you...if you wake up and he's poking you with his penis, get up and go to another room and lie back down, he'll get the message...he's like a child, it doesn't take them long to figure out if they pester you enough, they'll get what they want...
Stop giving in when you don't really feel like giving in...if his breath is bad in the morning, say 'sweetie, ya need to brush your teeth first' (whether you intend to kiss on him or suck on him or not)...
Simply stop allowing him to manipulate you into having sex when you don't want it...look him straight in the eye and just say "sorry, but I'm not in the mood" and then remove yourself from his presence...if he follows you, tell him to put his penis away because you're not going to be "worked' in that way any more...
Good luck...
2006-08-07 23:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to talk to HIM about this. Tell him you love him but that it is becoming a total turn off and that while you want to be with him and love him, you two need to work on a new strategy for sex. Make a plan. Talk about new signals for when you want "some". TALK ABOUT IT, or you're stuck with the behavior.
2006-08-07 23:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart... Here is a way to slow him down... Now Im sure that you have heard of Crazy Glue.... Well.... This is what you do... When he is asleep... Put a nice big spot of Crazy Glue on the head of his Dick and then gently press it to his stomich... Let it set for about 30 seconds... Then gently start to massage his nuts.... When he yells What the Fck... you can tell him how you feel....
you may want to glue his hands to his azz while your at it....
2006-08-07 23:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well stop doing it for a while. There is no punishment worse for a man than no sex.Tell him it turns you off and ignore it when he does this. After a while he'll get the point.
2006-08-07 23:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pretend to sleep when he does this to you in the morning. Don't do him the favor every time unless you feel like it. I don't understand why guys expect it all the time and when the girl expects it, they are not fulfilled.
2006-08-08 00:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by starr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you have a friend named Lorraine Bobbitt and she's given you advice on the personal being out too much!! LOL I don't know what to tell you...sometimes I'd like to have that kind of activity daily..when you get older...the amount of times you get it..aren't as many as you'd like..ENJOY IT!!!
2006-08-07 23:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋