Help me please!?

Question

Okay, I'm 15 and I'm a sophemore in high school. I am rly pretty, and I dress rly well and im an honors student. The friends I have are awesome, but everyone else seems to think that im a b**** for some reason and I have no idea why. I never talk behind ppl's backs, and I'm super nice to everyone. I'm not looking 2 b the most popular person in school, but I just want 2 know why I'm not.

Answer 1

i don't see why they don't like u. u seem nice.

Answer 2

The most important thing is that you can live with yourself at the end of the day. You can't let it matter what everyone else thinks. Sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders, don't ruin it by becoming petty on the inside. How important is popularity in the real world? Doesn't matter a bit. Trust me. I'm an old lady. At the reunions, they could care less about what you look like and who had the most friends. It's shining from the inside out with a great attitude, living a positive life, and making a difference in the world. You're young. You'll figure more of this out as you get older.

Answer 3

You seem like a nice person, but perhaps a bit conceited. You stated that you are "rly pretty, and... dress rly well"
Perhaps the reason people don't like you is because you are a bit too confident. Think back--- did you ever have an instance when you didn't give someone a chance, or judged them because the way they looked, acted, or dressed?

Answer 4

when you say you dress well, what do you mean, dress well as in nice and innocent or short skirts and spagetti straps? Well, when you are a combination of beauty and brains, it just makes some peoples' eyes sore.
And darling, being super nice is not always good. People might think that you're trying too hard to impress ( I mean for people who do not know you). Sometimes, you just need to be a little laid back. Ever smiling and talking to everyone who walks past you regardless of whether you know them or not could also result in people saying you're just trying to be someone popular, thus defining it as being a b****. It's a lame excuse but that's the way it is.

So, try to be normal nice to your friends, and those whom you do not know, just let them smile at you or talk to you first.

Answer 5

first of all.. u gotta calm down ur pride.. in a mean way of saying.. stop being concited! its understandable even when u dont say bad things about people behind their backs, but the way how u act might give others the feeling of u think ur better than everyone! high schools are full of dramas and most girls often talk so much shiet.. its a good thing that u think ur pretty and stuff but dont put that up in front, it will do u no good but a bad reputation!

Answer 6

I know somebody exactly like you. I don't think they intend to come across as bi***y either but they do in some ways. They're a wonderful person if you take the time to get to know them, it's like you say about yourself, you're always nice to people, likewise, so is this person. I think that people's interpretation of you being a b**** stems partially from their jealousy but mostly from your conceitedness. You probably don't intend to brag about yourself and maybe you don't think you do too often. You're deceiving yourself. If I asked you to make a list of all your faults you could probably do it with no problem and you would see that as proof that you're not big headed. You're partially right but whether you realize it or not, you brag about yourself in subtle ways. For example, in your question you describe yourself as pretty, well dressed, and smart. You're being 100% honest but not modest. Try being a little more modest. Don't ask why people don't like you despite all of your good qualities, just know that you have good qualities and keep that knowledge to yourself.

When you are nice to everyone, you expect to make them feel good and you think because of that, they'll like you. But sometimes you have to let people have their glory. Sometimes you have to swallow your pride and let them feel superior to you. If you consistently show them up then it makes them feel bad about themselves. It's not your fault if you're really good at everything you do, but whether you want it to be or not, it seems demeaning to other people when you constantly prove how wonderful you are. (even if you don't brag about it).

Here's a couple suggestions that might help you out:
**Instead of being embarrassed by your mistakes, laugh and poke fun at yourself for doing them.
**Occassionally let people have the last word, even if you know that they're completely wrong.
**Sometimes instead of complementing someone for doing well, pretend to be amazed even if what they did wasn't amazing to you at all. It will make them feel better to have surprised you rather than earning your appraisal. Think about it, if you compliment someone, you are saying that they have met your expectations. However, if you compliment them with awe, you are saying that they exceeded your expectations and shocked you.

Popularity is not important unless you're selling something. Be happy with who you are and don't compare yourself to other people. If they're less fortunate than you, don't pity them but admire what they make out of what they have. Most importantly, be true to yourself and don't exaggerate small and insignificant things, (including your good qualities).

Answer 7

Well if you're nice to everyone, maybe you're wrong -- maybe you're just exaggerating it and making it worse in your mind. It could be that a few people dislike you, but that will always happen -- some people are jealous or whatever, and you can't please everyone. Don't stress yourself out to thinking that EVERYONE thinks that way when it might actually only be 1 or 2 people.

Answer 8

Perhaps they are jealous that you are 'rly pretty' and 'dress rly well' and are so smart...or perhaps they dislike you for your ego...or find your lack of spelling ability annoying...

It's hard to say, but chances are you really do know...or have some idea...

Answer 9

It sounds to me like you brag. You say that you are really pretty, dress really nice, and are an honors student. A lot of people don't like vain people.

Answer 10

also slightly vain are we? school is tough, you need to have friends from more than just your group, go out of your way to get to know others not just kids in the popular group, and don't be condescending towards them because they don't have what you do

Answer 11

your in high school, you do 1 thing good and more ppl like more get jealous and then rumors start but you sound very nice i dont see why they dont like you. i would hang w/ you.