I have been going out with this guy for a year, i am 16 and i am confused on what to do should i do it or is there anything else we could do?
2006-08-07 15:47:11 · 12 answers · asked by bad_girl2442 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Does any one have an ansewr i am so confused on what to do i really like him....
2006-08-07 15:53:09 · update #1
If you're confused then no!!! And you said you only really like you didn't say you were in love with him. Also if you don't have a definite yes in your mind that you want to have sex then don't do so. I think 16 is still a little too young. But if you do please use a condom.
2006-08-07 15:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by CPSweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that I found striking about this was the fact that, after an entire YEAR of being together, he hasn't tried (maybe he has?), or hasn't been SUCCESSFUL at getting you to give in to sex. That in itself says a lot; this person respects you. I think there's a great deal of pressure from your peers for you to go out and have sex but trust me, you are not alone. There are TONS of people out there your age and older (yes, I know guys in their late 20's even) who haven't done it yet. Make sure this person is VERY special to you. I know too many people (myself included) that had sex with someone they "really liked," but later regreted it because the first time is the one you will always remember and it just wasn't special. Be careful with who you give yourself to. Does he deserve you? Be sure to talk to him about it too. I'm sure he's just as anxious as you are, but if you're not ready, don't allow someone to convince you otherwise. If you ARE ready, protect yourself. Use birth control/condoms because accidents will happen.
2006-08-07 23:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by None 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under any conditions, 16 is just too young to be having sex. You're not ready for the responsibility or the possible mental and emotional fallout from such an action. Plus, you'll be surrendering the best gague you have in determining if he loves you or not. If he loves you, he'll wait. If he just wants sex, he won't. Don't get hurt.
2006-08-07 22:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by brunchbuddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of other things you could do... now the first thing you should do is sak yourself, is pregnancy or STD's worth risking it? Seriously, your virginity is something you should save until you ARE sure... it seems to me you are not. Listen... it is a gift, not something you do because you feel you have to... please understand me when I say, WAIT until the right time. Make sure you are really in love. And don't just thing you are, KNOW you are. My first time was with a man I thought I loved very much... then he left the next day and I never got to talk to him again. Boys will tell you anything to get you in bed... BEWARE what they say! A year will be a drop in the bucket when you make it to my age, (27) and please respect yourself!
2006-08-07 22:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad girl.
Dump him if you think sex is the only thing you have in common.
You can always find another guy to go out with and sex is special if you treat it like it is special. If not it means nothing.
Bad bad girl.
2006-08-08 00:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are confused then you are probably not ready don't let him or anyone else pressure you into having sex . wait until you are ready you will know when it's your time and when it is make sure you use protection . good luck
2006-08-07 23:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u and this guy really care for each other and u r ready (and u will know when u are ready ) and u feel that it is rigth then yes. but if u r not ready then wait but it all is matter on how u feel .
2006-08-08 14:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by Bre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter if u being wit him for a year. if u ready then go ahead. that how some people get hurt.
2006-08-11 16:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hyphy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haven't you heard?!?! Being a virgin is in now! Anyone can do it but not everyone can not do it! sex can wait, masturbate!
2006-08-07 22:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by fancy unicorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are physically and emotionally ready, then you should. do it if you are ready, not him.
2006-08-08 03:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Aubrey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋