Emergency Question -- Just found out!?

Question

My serial cheater boyfriend just told someone that "whorin around is hard to stop". He is supposed to be showing me he has changed. We been together 8 years, he cheated on me for 4. Constant cheating. I left him for 6 months (he cheated with two girls during that time) but I'm back. Now he's all lovey dovey and s*** when I'm around but when I'm not he's saying sh** like that and telling girls he's gotta "lay low for a minute, but they know what's up".

You think he's just talking to keep up his playa image or that he might cheat again if he gets the chance?

Why is he acting one way around me, then talking like this around everyone else? Is it just talk, because I dont think he may do it again. I had our number changed too, so the girls cant call the house.

I dont know what the f*** to think.

Answer 1

Once a cheater always a cheater. Kick his butt to the curb. You deserve better!!!!

Answer 2

Yes he will cheat again if hes acting like that.You have to determine how much longer will you put up with it.He don't want to let you go because he fear that someone else will Take you and treat you the way you should be treated.Changing the number want do anything if he's giving it out.I know that you love yourself more than him.If you don't then there is something wrong.You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel and be real with you. Stop letting him play the game "oh, I'm with you when other females aren't around.But it's up to you how much more can you take.Don't be a door mate for anyone.Good luck

Answer 3

OK girl, I totally know where your coming from. I never believed in the once a cheater, always a cheater crap, but now I think that I do. I have learned, the hard way that you can't change people. You can change your phone number a dozen times, watch him like a hawk, get mad, move out, but if he dosen't realize that his behavior is wrong, and want to change, then he will never change. Take it from me, I was married for nine years, my husband cheated on me with at least 6 different women, that I know about. Each time he cheated, it was never just a one night stand, it was an on-going thing for weeks, sometimes even months. Each time I would have to move out in order for it to stop. I would move out, a couple of days without me to do his laundry and make him dinner, and he'd come crawling back begging for forgivness, then he'd say that he was going to change. He'd say that he wants to go to counseling, do whatever it takes to keep me. I'd go back, it would be good for awhile, but then he'd find someone else to cheat on me with within a few months. It is typical to the battered woman cycle. Actually, it is the same exact thing. I feel that cheating is a form of emotional abuse. I finally, wised up after getting help from a good counsler, and I filed for divorce a few months ago. Best thing, that I could do for myself and my kids, cause I don't want them growing up and thinking what their father did to me is all right. That's all I'd be teaching them, if I stayed with him. Girlfriend, you need to leave that man for good. He will never change. Find a therapist or counsler to talk to, or talk to your girlfriends. There are so many other fish in the sea, you don't need that one, who will only cause you pain. Please think about what I am saying seriously. Feel free to email me, if you need to talk, or anything. Best wishes to you.

Answer 4

Dear Nuni, honestly, a Leopard never change it's spot. Once a liar forever a liar.

I am man, speaking about man (generally), who usually goes for soft heart woman but love woman to be rough on sex (well, just by saying, but no all thou).
And if one Man/Woman who can fulfill and provide all the love, care, etc. that is needed, but can't fulfill the sexual part. And coincidently someone (Man/Woman) came across him/her, it tend to create/generate opportunities for them to try out their sexual skill/technique more willingly (do or die). which they'll try their best to satisfy their individual needs in sex.

Which you may have loose out on this part. However, she (he's girl) will also end up in the same situation, when he found another girl who can perform sexual activities better than her..

BUT, by saying all this, he (your 8yo bf) will also loose out having nothing left. as once a cheater is always a cheater. and will also be cheated and cheated again in his future life.

So, to cut the story short, you dont have any F**K to think. Just find a new life, and life goes on...
There are still many honest man may be waiting to take care and provide the true love for you...

Answer 5

I was also in that situation but I was married to this man. I was so brain washed that I can tell you that I didn't know what was right and wrong. I met this girl that I became friends with and she let me see who I really was and what he was doing. She said that I deserved something much better than that. I guess I got out of my shell and saw what other people were seeing. And I didn't like it. I decided to leave and start on my own. I have more friends now and I feel more confident about myself. My advice to you is get out or you will leave a lie for the rest of your life. Just like I did. Good luck!

Answer 6

Wow, if he is saying that then chances are he isn't giving it a full effort. You are trying to figure out someone that you aren't capable of figuring out because you don't have the same nature as him. He has a cheating desire, and only he can overcome it. Trying to understand it isn't going to put you in a better place emotionally is it? No. So why analyze it. I know why, because you are hurt. You are the mother of his kids girl and you don't deserve this kind of treatment. It's obvious that his behavior has weakened your self-image quite a bit. You can't spend all your days and nights worrying about him, make a decision to be good to yourself, and a long with that decision will come the desire to disengage this relationship with him.

Answer 7

i already told that you need to leave his *** alone of course he is laying low did you question him about what he just said, i would, why are putting your self thru this **** when you can do so much better if you gave yourself half the chance right, yes he is gonna do it agian and again as long as he can have his cake and eat to and it looks like you already found out that he is just laying low for now, move on with your life let the trash go unless your apart of the trash and if your are sorry for ya sister because your gonna get cheated on numerous times from here on out, have you not learned nothing yet aboyt marriage and infedlity, and if you had to change your house phone number that is pretty bad because i would have choked him with the phone by now, he sneaks around every chance he can,and when your not around and he is working he is calling these girls and sneaking around every chance he can

Answer 8

BLAH!! Honey get yourself a real man who wants only you. Cheaters NEVER EVER EVER stop.

The minute I found out my husband of 10 yrs had been sleeping with my best friend I ended it with him. No way would he touch me again. Yuck.

As for the girls calling...that should be a huge sign he is still a playa!! He doesn't have the guts to draw the line with them!!

So many men would be faithful. Go find one.

Answer 9

Why are you keep asking questions about you "cheating boyfriend"? If this is causing you alot of headache and hardache then please leave him. You are stressing youself out about a problem that you do not need and don't have to put up with.
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that's he's using you dear.

READ THIS CLEARLY. When in doubt, move him out. It is clear that he is playing you and maybe he is sticking around so that he won't have to pay child support. Life is too short to be worry about some man. Please move on.

*Now if you don't take heed to the answers given to you, then you will continuously be on yahoo asking questions about your cheating boyfriend.

Answer 10

I am sorry to hear what you are going through, been there myself. Not all men are dogs, but to me it sounds like you "guy" wants to play both sides of the line between single and attached.
Will he do it again, no one can truly know but him, but what you do know at this point is that you have lost an essential part of your relationship: TRUST. You may forgive but deep down you wil never FORGET.
To be honest with you even though I have no idea who you are I think you deserve a full relationship with someone you can truly trust.
Good Luck to you.

Answer 11

girl break up with that b***h he cheated on you almost the whole damn time you were not meant to be. i mean he give his number cheated on you for 4 years and including those six months that is not right why did you give him so many chances??? you just break up with and if you don't well if he wanna be a playa well tell him that you can be one too and give out your # and stuff that he aint the only one that is gonne be suffering any more