i met a guy at work who was there for me in a difficult time we formed a friendship which included other coworkers then it became more intimate betwen us as i developed feelings for him i then found out he was married he said his wife was not having sex anymore because she was always too tired or felt like she wasnt sexy. i dont want him to leave her but i am inlove with him he has been such a good friend to me should i leave him alone try to be friends or have sex with no consequences
2006-08-07 15:15:18 · 15 answers · asked by sarah jessica p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dont want him to leave his wife its just that i have had a horrible relationship that i had to get out of i was physically and emotionally abused but this man makes me feel so beautiful so special he acts like he really cares. is it possible to have married the wrong person only to later find your true soul mate
2006-08-07 15:29:07 · update #1
it might seem silly to some people that a woman ask a question like this but until you are in this position you never know! love can be the best and the worst thing to happen to a person. thank you all for your prompt responses, having other people's opinions have opened my mind and helped to close my heart i have been such a fool for so long as they say love is blind it can take over your mind.
2006-08-07 15:49:10 · update #2
People are telling you to leave HIM alone. It should have been this married creep who left YOU alone in the first place, preying on single girls, while hes got one at home.He should know better, and honestly, you sound intelligent enough to get someone else whos between relationships(out of one and looking for another) Go online when youve got time and check out all the dating sites, go out with other guys. Believe me, hes got it ALL! Why should you suffer?? Dont make it easy for this w@nker, he deserves all he gets.
2006-08-15 04:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're walking on thin ice here.. the fact that he's having an affair with you says a few things. He doesn't care about his marriage for one thing, he's ok with cheating right now (so what's not to say that he might cheat on you in the future) and more importantly he's ok with the dishonesty. Is that what you really want in a relationship? If you're having a relationship in the office it makes it a little more difficult, because what will happen if something goes wrong, it would make things a little awkward. The fact that he's still with his wife gives me a little reason to think that it's not *that* bad, otherwise he would have divorced his wife already. Any good relationship shouldn't be kept in the shadows.. and I'm sure you can find someone else who you don't have to hide in secrecy.
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Ok, if he really loves you and you really love him - then ask him to divorce his wife.. if he's really not that satisfied with his current marriage then he should be able to get out of it with little reserve. After that's done this question doesn't really matter anymore because he'd be a free bird and you can do whatever you please.
PS - go sex and the city - all hail the cosmopolitan!
2006-08-07 15:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by DJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to do this is leave him alone, that means you cannot be friends. NO CONTACT...If you try to be friends you will just end up taking your relationship to the next level.
As a married man, he has no right to share his marriage problems outside of his relationship with his wife unless it is to a professional counselor.
I suspect he is playing you, and he isn't leaving his wife, he just wants his cake and to eat it too...you're the icing on the cake. I think you are being used.
2006-08-07 15:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he was any friend to you, he would of told you he was married in the first place, use your head girl dont want to come down on you, but if you keep seeing him you aint hurting no one but you in the end...see im a sista so imma tell you like it is....the thing about married men is anything beyond a wife is classified as a **** join... yes a booty call when he dont want to deal with wifey...and the bad part about it is... men commit adultry wit no shame or intensions on leaving their wives...rather you asked him to or not. he probably ****** the both of yall.. dont be dumb end it before you get hurt anymore.. you said your in love with.. and dont look foward to him leaving his wife..so if being in love with him means sharing him, or him not being able to commit to you 100/percent...your saying your cool with being the other woman( think about the territory that comes with being the other woman) my opinion he's a married bad excuse for a man you call a friend. good friends dont lie to each other..no excuses..get out before your hear gets broken...thats the only hope of the two of you
2006-08-07 15:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by j-mill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex with no consequences? That is a contradiction in terms. If you believe him, I know a guy who has a little land in Florida for sale that only gets wet once in a while. But, if having a guy who is unavailable most all the time floats your boat, have at it.
2006-08-07 15:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if the entire yahoo answers community comes on here and says DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM you're still going to do what you want. It is obviously not a good idea to do that, and you know it. You should admit that you're just looking for excuses to do what you want. Human nature, I'd probably do the same thing.
2006-08-07 15:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by billysimas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he just wants sex from you ,every once in a while he would leave his wife but in the long run you will be the one hurt probably,
2006-08-07 15:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by flowergir41 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave him alone.dont ever mess with a married man that will get you killed or badly hurt.you have some nerve asking that question anyways.just remain his friend only.if you decide to be more i hope his wife catches you
2006-08-07 15:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its better to leave him alone kuz if u get involved wit him his wife mite find out thn tht kud cause a lot of drama and if he wud cheat on his wife thn he is no gud ne way
2006-08-07 15:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by black_gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever a married man is in the picture it's almost always a disaster... please leave him and find someone you really deserve to be with... don't even wait for him to get divorced... chances are, he'll use you and stay married... you sound nice and i think you should be with someone who doesn't have so much baggage and who will ultimately hurt you
2006-08-07 15:23:31 · answer #10 · answered by constanze_mylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋