Every few nights in bed he will ask me to marry him. I have always said "of course". Last month he was away working at a summer camp and asked if we should be together to pick it out, once again I said "of course" (I already have it picked out). Is it out of line for me to ask him about it although we're technically engaged-to-be-engaged?
2006-08-07 15:06:51 · 20 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A ring is just a ring. It seems as if your boyfriend has made a commitment to you already.
Don't push him, rush him for a ring, he will take you to pick it out when he is ready.
Maybe he is waiting until he has the time to make it really special for you.
Maybe he is secretly planning something really big........
Don't make it seem like you are materialistic or that you are putting him on a time table.
It will happen when it happens.
2006-08-07 15:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesn't think the ring is that big of a deal. Men don't realize that once a women is engaged, she wants that ring on her finger to show all the world. If ya'll been together long enough and you are sure about it, just tell him one day when you are trying to find something to do. Just say "hey, let's go pick out my ring" Then see how he responds and go from there. Are you sure that he can financially afford it right now. That would make a guy stall. Just have to ask him. Good luck.
2006-08-07 22:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a ring that yes he'll pay for but you're the one wearing it on your finger for the rest of your life. The worst he can say is no or he doesn't like it or it's outside of his budget. Then you start at square one again only this time try to have him with you when you look because you don't want his feelings to be repeatedly hurt because he wants to be there to help pick it out. I would tell him you seen a ring you liked and would like him to take a look at it also to see what he thinks. or don't say anything just go to where it is and oops there it is he doesn't know a thing=)
2006-08-07 22:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by summera76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is no such thing as technically engaged to be engaged. You are either engaged or not. It sounds like he is having second thoughts about marriage. Ask him again about the ring and ask him to set a date for The wedding. If he is serious about marriage he will get the ring & set a date. If not consider changing men.
2006-08-07 22:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by BUTCH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let nature take its course. Find out what the hesistation is about. Guys normally find it hard to commit. He could be just procrastinating. The wedding ceremony is but a graduation ceremony for courtship. The real job comes after, its called marriage. Have you guys talk about "what it means to be a husband ? or a wife ? Or even a mother or father ? Thats marriage. Finances ...? Guys normally don't realize the reality of their words until reality hits like something tangible they have to do : engagement ring.
2006-08-07 22:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be as direct as possible and say; This weekend let's get the engagement ring. He has asked you to marry him and he said, should we both be together to pick it out? You said of course to both, so I don't see being direct or asking about it as being out of line.
2006-08-07 22:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by mia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in the minute you get engaged you get a ring right away... that's not like picking any other stuff like a nice shirt or a good ipod...especially if it's about your future !!
2006-08-07 22:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, by all means, ask him if this weekend be a good time to go and buy the Ring; but maybe you should let him have some say to what kind if Ring he would like for you.
2006-08-07 22:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by lousylaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bring it up sometime when you're together and show it to him and tell him that you like that one. Don't be overly forceful or put a lot of pressure on him, especially if it's extremely expensive. Something like this shouldn't hurt your relationship at all especially if you're going to get married. Consider it a test of how strong your relationship is haha.
2006-08-07 22:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not out of line to discuss it with him. It's quite selfish and presumptuous to have it picked out and just expect him to pay for it. Maybe it's more than he can afford or more than he intends on paying...in which case you'll get upset at him and all over something you did to yourself. You need to do a lot more growing up before you're ready for marriage.
2006-08-07 22:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋