what about you?

Question

Facing the reality that you have homosexual feelings can cause enormous inner turmoil. Especially if those feelings directly conflict with your values, self-image, and life dreams.

We know what it’s like. We've been there.

So we also know you don’t have to be gay...and you don’t have to live in painful denial of your true feelings either.

When do YOU want to change?

http://www.peoplecanchange.com/index.htm

Answer 1

You're an idiot. Please park your ignorance elsewhere.

Answer 2

The only reason that coming out as a homosexual causes "enormous inner turmoil" is because of how society portrays homosexuality (which is wrong ). If people would just stop giving homosexuals a hard time and accept them, life would be so much better for everybody. BTW, my homosexuality does NOT conflict with my "values, self-image and life dreams", but denying my natural feelings certainly would.

Answer 3

Once upon a time I tried to change. For years I tried, because I knew it would upset my family...that was my biggest concern. I knew I was fine, I just didn't want to cause problems for everyone else. I conformed to the world and its norms. And then I finally learned that none of that mattered. What mattered was being true to me. If I couldn't do that, I would have gone insane. I tried the changing...and now I'm no longer killing myself in denial. I'm in touch with my true feelings, and I have the greatest boyfriend I could ever ask for.

The site you reference is quite interesting. It assumes that straight men are supposed to be "masculine" and that gay men are thus inherently feminine. This is so much BS. It only helps perpetuate the stranglehold that patriarchy has on all of us, and it's a system that hurts everyone, men included. It's also interesting that it poses that homosexuality has a root cause of some past emotional trauma type, especially those that are connected to a lack of love and lack of "masculinity". I had and still have the most loving family anyone could ever ask for. I was never very masculine nor feminine and spent most of my time with my guy friends doing guy things.

Answer 4

Any turmoil caused by homosexual feelings is due to society's negative attitudes and judgements. Think about it...if when you were growing up, all relationships were considered "normal", whether it's gay, straight, bi, etc., then you wouldn't have any inner turmoil. You would follow your natural tendencies, and just be happy.

Personally, if the right person comes along and it happens to be in a woman's body, how silly would it be to turn away from that amazing relationship?

Answer 5

Facing the reality that you have homosexual feelings can cause enormous inner turmoil if you are in the closet. Especially if those feelings directly conflict with your values,self-image,and life dreams.

We know what's it's like.We've been there, have you?

We also know you don't want to be straight...and you don't have to live life pretending to be straight,gurl.

When do you want to change?

No wonder your name is loony liz!

But I tell you what, if you really want to change me, call me in the year 2080.

Answer 6

I love the way I am. Why would I want to change just cause not everyone is ok with the way I am. Why on earth do you think that we have are own minds? The reason cause everyone has different veiws on things and like things differently then others. So let people have their own prefrences without critisizing them for it. I am GAY and so are others so what? Can't you let people fall in love no matter who it is so they can be happy? I for one will not change just cause you think that I have to change cause sorry but I can't change the way I am. You are aparently straight but most likely you have a prefrence in men. It's the same thing when your gay, lesbian, or bisexual, we have prefrences that you may not like but we do so stop trying to change us alright? Ok I hope you get it now and if not you still have time to learn so until then good bye.

Answer 7

I was pretending to be a straight guy for about 19 years. It sucked. I hated pretending to be something I'm not. I was on the verge of doing something drastic to myself and others. I went to church every sunday from birth to 19. I was a bad person that got horrible grades, didn't have a job, and didn't care about anyone or anything.

Now I'm being true to myself. I'm a transsexual lesbian and proud of it! The only problem I had was that asswipe conservatives in my home town told me that it was wrong and prevented me from being myself. That was the only pain I had.

Seven months later, I'm happy with who I am. I've found religion. My grades are improving. There is no conflict between my religious beleifs and who I am because I'm not one of those close-minded christians. I'm donating my time and energy to making the world a better place. I'm a happier, better person since I became a wiccan, transsexual, lesbian.

Answer 8

you don't know what you're talking about .. there is no "ex-gay" movement in christianity, because , sooner or later, they revert

from the source cited below:

"Make no mistake about it -- changes undoubtedly do occur in the "ex-gay" movement. But in my extensive study of "ex-gay" phenomena over more than a decade convinces me that the changes are turnover in testimonies, personnel, promises, definitions, expectations and claims, not changes in sexual orientation and behavior. As even "ex-gay" movement promoter Sharon Kuhn has admitted in Campus Crusade's "Worldwide Challenge" magazine, "most ["ex-gay"] ministries to Christian homosexuals soon die out."

also from that source:
"Five years ago, "Christianity Today" splashed across its cover: "Homosexuals CAN Change." Two years later, that magazine's editor, Kenneth Kantzer, admitted that "The evidence is clear that such a turn [from homosexuality to heterosexuality] is often not very successful,"

Answer 9

What a joke....real 1950's American humour....."POOF---you're a fairy...on no wait...POOF --you're straight". Come on grow up and face the facts...why do you persist in this outrageous behaviour ..pretending to know all about gayness in people (Who knows maybe you do?)...It's no wonder that GLBT teen suicides are at an all time high..make no mistake it's because of people like you who try to force them to be something they're not. Why not try learning to love people for what they are...not what you'd like them to be...such a selfish attitude..you should be ashamed. I'm 57 years old and I have no intention of changing.

Answer 10

To answer your question directly, NO I wouldn't change who I am for any reason, even if it was possible. You CANNOT change your orientation, regardless of how many hate-filled bigots try to convince everyone you can.

The American Psychological Association acknowledges that Reparative Therapy DOES NOT work. It is attempts of ignorant people discriminating against normal people, who happen to be gay/lesbian/bisexual/or transgendered.

For more information please see these links below and help end ignorance.

Answer 11

I'm wearing my garlic to repel vampires. You have no idea the torture you are suggesting to young people that they would go through some lame-brained attempt at conversion!

It doesn't work. You can put them through some form of aversion therapy which makes them shun their true needs, but you cannot change their true being.

Please take your hateful ways elsewhere, and leave us alone.