Where are the lines btwn straight, bi, and homosexual?

Question

There's something beyond bi-curious that I still wouldn't call bi. That space where it's not enough romance to ever be a relationship and/or not hot enough to actively persue. LOL, I think of "curious" as predominently intellectual thing, as in deciding to try oysters. I'm talking about after you tried the oyster, didn't gag, but would only eat them again under pretty rare circumstances.

BTW, I'm more interested from the gay/les perspective than the straight.

I identify as lesbian. That said, years ago there was a guy who I loved dearly. Only he didn't do it for me physically. It was basically half the equation - romantic yes, sexual, minimal. So, in today's world, would that make be bi.

BTW, I believe in the continuum and that most ppl fall somewhere in the bi range. Question's more about general label usage.

Answer 1

I just call anything that doesn't purport to be 100% heterosexual queer. I'm gay enough that I'll usually call myself gay, though I'm not stupid enough to claim that I'm 100% anything. There aren't any lines, really—it's just a greyish continuum. If you really want to know where someone is on the continuum, you can just ask—and then they can give you an accurate description of their orientation, without the risk of you assuming something about them by the label the wear.

Answer 2

I believe that what you are mentioning it is not about sexuality. It has to do with the character of people, and so their behaviour, how far they will go into something, it's an individual attitude.
In sexuality, there's the straight and gay(les), and all people occupy a space between one or the other, more extreme or more central. Some also claim assexuality, but again, it seems to have a strong personal imprict than the lack of sexual attraction.
But that bi-curious, or something else, or reluctance to certain things despite of interest, that's an individual attitude. There are also many gays who like to watch full porn, but won't do certain things like oral or anal. And they don't get a specific denomination coz of it.

Answer 3

Interesting. SAM had a recent article about sexual preference. The basic conclusion was that if we did not exist with all of these heavy societal taboos telling us how to feel, most of the population would fall in the Bi-sexual category, and Heterosexualism/Homosexualism would be minorities.

You cannot stop sexual chemistry from occurring, even if you want to deny it & pretend you didn't notice. The same way you pick your friends — there has to be a mutual physical chemistry or you wouldn't want to be around eachother socially.

Answer 4

I think that sexuality is a big spectrum from 100% gay to 100% straight..with even some Narcissistic masturbation thrown in for more good times...I don't know where everyone falls on the scale ..and I don't much care...I've had sexual relations with women when I was young..but i know now that I tend toward the 100% gay side..this is sexually...As people--I like everyone unless convinced otherwise.
PS I really liked mitch's answer.

Answer 5

I've heard some people who have attractions to both sexes but have only ever been with one referred to as being, "bi - but he hasn't done the lab work yet". And you are right about it being a continuum, so on a scale of 1 to 100, with 100 being 100% gay you could have someone who's maybe a "12" who likes to look, dream but wouldn't really enjoy being with someone of the opposite sex. I really do think our built in pheromone receptors play a big role.

Answer 6

I'm not certain what the question was,lol. I'm bi,I've been married 3 times to the opposite sex. I've always been attracted to women,and men,but never acted on it until I was 34. I don't think it's an all or nothing situation. I'm currently with a male. I feel more sexy when with a woman,go figure. Plus women know what women want,enough said

Answer 7

Having had the experience & to still be even mildly interested in doing it again (even if only under pretty rare circumstances)would, to my way of thinking make the person bisexual. The way I see it, the fact that the person had already had the experince would remove the "curious" so couldn't consider themselves bi-curious any more. However, even if the person had a strong proclivity towards the opposite sex, if he'd even consider having another same sex experience due to his (lesser) attraction for the same sex I'd consider him bisexual.

Answer 8

Look at Kinsey's study it is pretty accurate as it applies to bisexuals.

Answer 9

it is all a grey area

Answer 10

what