drawing unemployment, or even getting food stamps as he says-the reason i am not working right now is because i am sick(they think i may have cancer). What would you do in this situation?
2006-08-07 14:42:21 · 14 answers · asked by gee-geeofmo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your husband is just throwing a rock and seeing how far he can throw!stop him in his tracks and turn the tables he'll see your way very soon if not get a side kick!
2006-08-07 14:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeeeez! I'm so sorry to hear that. I think your husband is being incredibly cold and that he needs to be told that your health is more important to you than anything and should be to him too! If he doesn't come around soon, I would tell him that you need to get well and can't do that with him being a jerk. I'm serious. Getting well is just as much mental power as physical, and he is doing a really good job of bringing you down when you need him the most. If he doesn't get it, then go move in with a family member for awhile,...someone who will take care of you like you deserve during this horrible time in your life. DON'T even worry about divorce right now...don't even let that be in your thoughts...you have enough on your plate just trying to get well. Once you have kicked this thing and I believe you will...then that's when he may need to be kicked to the curb. Good luck to you...I will say a prayer for you.
2006-08-07 21:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Girl Ive been there...Im a nurse and worked with cancer patients...when I had a car accident I got whiplash so bad thats its a year and a half later and Im still in pain constantly...when I gave up my job finally, it was because the money was not worth the pain. Anyway my hubby has said similair things...and it's very hard when they dont understand your sickness and pain. Maybe he hasn't been in that situation. I hope you don't have cancer, cancer is a B**** I know! GL take care of yourself and have a heart to heart with him. If it turns out to be cancer, you are going to need his support. He is aboviousl feeling financially stressed and said what he did out of resentment. That SUX! Do you have the support of family? Turn to them or a pastor or friend. Maybe counceling. Good Luck and Health wishes to you :-)
2006-08-08 18:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by Julia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow I feel I need more information to answer this one. What does he mean by doing whatever he wanted to do?
If he is the breadwinner of the family, he knows he is charge of providing for the whole family. Is he? If not, you both have a situation that needs dealing with.
They think you may have cancer. Who are they? The government? You employer? What do the doctors say? If this illness is incapacitating you, then you have alternatives, choices you must explore, is your husband helping? He should, he committed to that when he married you.
Best of luck and God Bless.
2006-08-07 21:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by umbralatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say this, no matter what happens does he have this rule that if he makes the money can do whatever he wants, NOT is what i would tell him, and guess what he shouldnt be such a dick thru this very hard time your going thru, men are selfish pigs and i dont know why they think that they can do whatever they want whenever they want, i hate men becusae of this and that attitude right there is what women hate so much about men. So what your not working does that mean he can affair , or drink himself to death or come in all hours of the night, no he took vovws and the way i see that is a infedlity in my book, good luck and if you would like to talk email cqueen742003@yahoo.com
2006-08-07 21:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by prettygirl new orleans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear about your being sick. If your husband is being an ***, I would wait till he is at work, draw out every dime in the bank, file for divorce and tell him to go to hell.
He will not be able to get his clothes , tools, ANYTHING in the house untill the divorce is finalized. Sell all his crap, keep the cash. He will need to pay alimony, child support and the car and house payments.
Wish you luck, hon. Hope you can beat this being sick thing.
2006-08-07 21:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he's looking for a get out of jail free card. I'd try to sit down and talk with him and try to get his reason for feeling this way out in the open. Just because you are not contributing to your marriage financially does not mean that you're not giving all you have. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-08-07 22:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jayna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him about your problems and explain the situation if he is a caring husband he will understand and support you in everyway if not then he obviously is self centered and has no true feeling because when u marry it should be for better and worse sickness and health and richer and poorer remind him of the vows u both took
2006-08-07 21:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by heidi g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through sickness and in health.....
Tell him u are hurt. It's not your fault u are not working. Ask him just to be there for u. What if the tables were turned?
2006-08-07 21:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a husbund who respects you shold never say those thimgs sounds liek firstly he doe not respect you secondly tell him what stands stand your ground and if he does not accept that your sick and not working then leave him
2006-08-07 21:53:05 · answer #10 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋