2006-08-07 14:39:24 · 18 answers · asked by Adam69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, because the kids can see u are unhappy, no matter how hard u try 2 hide it.
2006-08-07 14:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that finally realized not right for me to live my life miserable and having an unhappy mom was affecting the kids too. So I don't think you should stay for the kids. if you are sure you are no longer in love and the marriage can only get worse best to get out. better to be a happy single parent than an unhappy family together.
2006-08-07 14:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER, Children are very smart. If you are unhappy they can or will sense it. For people to think "well we don't fight around them so they won't know that any thing is wrong", they are terribly mistaken. If you stay in a marriage that isn't happy and your child can sense this, Isn't this worse than two parents living apart, happily. We may not realize it but when we are unhappy we aren't the parents that we should be, but if you are separated then you can be happy, be the parent that your children need and the children will be better off for this in the long run.
2006-08-07 14:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of things to consider before you get a divorce. If your spouse is abusive, seperate now! But other than that, you have to consider not only the age of your children, but also their maturity. However, if they're immature and are over 18, then it shouldn't be a huge factor in your desicion making. Do you still love your spouse? Do you constantly argue about the smallest things? Is there more than happiness and money involved? Do think and weigh these things heavily. Don't make yourself completely miserable "just for the kids" and the fact that you've been "together a long time." Times change and so do people, but be careful. Best of luck!
2006-08-07 15:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by Silver Snake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. The children may start wondering why would I keep a man around that makes our lives miserable. I wouldn't want to lose the love of my children. I believe I would get out of an unhappy marriage, especially, if the husband is always fooling around. I would interpret that as a desire to be out of the marriage, anyway.
So, I believe I would grant his wish and kick him to the nearest curb.
2006-08-07 14:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by divabylaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there abuse in the marriage? I think people quit on marriage too easily in our generation just because they don't like each other much anymore. But my parents stayed together for a long time during my teens when it was clear they didn't like it. But there was no abuse, alcoholsim, etc. It was worth the work. They ended up happier than ever after a couple of years and especially after we all left home. They died 6 weeks apart two years ago. They are together now forever.
2006-08-07 14:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by HelpOneAnother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a sexless marriage with kids for 10 years. I stayed because of the kids. Biggest mistake and waste of time. My ex and I resented each other. Now we are friends because of the kids. Be honest with your spouse and get out of the relationship. Don't put your kids in the middle.I met a woman 3 years later and we married after5 years. I'm very happy now. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-07 14:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think i would have to say yes becuase i am living it everyday and it is the hardest thing i have ever done. Life is so miserable but the kids are happy and normal right, well mine are to but i seem to fall apart once a day. But if my husband was abtter husband than father my descion would be differnt, my husabnd is the number father thats for sure and to take that away is scary for them as well as me. they love and adore the ground he walks on as he walks thru my door everyday my whole body cringes with feelings of disgust, and that feeling alone is the worse one to have, i almost hate at times and that is becuase he is an asshole and very selfish, just as i am writing this my husband is in a bar room near the house while we are here have already eaten dinner, kids bathed, and me just sitting here bascially babysitting while he is out is how i feel, is this right i ask myself, no but what is one to do, i think i know how your feeling and if you would like talk you can email cqueen742003@yahoo.com ok good luck and best wishes
2006-08-07 14:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by prettygirl new orleans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think if their is abuse, you need to get help and if the help does not resolve the abuse it's time to get out. If there is abuse and you dont wanna get help...just get out :-)
I think abou t it this way, my kids are between 3-13. Im not that happy in my marriage because we've lost the inlove and romance part...at this point I have no desire to have another man and I think that maybe after the kids are gone that we will have more time for dates & fun stuff that we missed cuz we had kids too young.
We are grouchy at times because of money and probs with the kids...that's it and I think that that is normal for many couples. We still have sex regularly and have fun times...but if there was no sex and no fun and no love...Id get out...
GL with your decision!
2006-08-08 10:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by Julia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't doing the kids any favor. You are their role models and they will act just like you when they get married. They'll probably need therapy to reverse the damage you've already done. No-- you need another excuse to keep from being independent. While "pretty girl's" husband is at the bar she could work on her spelling.
2006-08-07 15:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋