How do you get over someone who was a good friend?

Question

Lately, we havent been talking a lot. We use to talk all the time, almost 24/7 and all of a sudden it feels like he replaced me with some other girl. They are always talking the way me and him use to talk and it hurts. I would tell my friend about how i feel but he isn't the type..If you're mad at him, he's mad at you until YOU apologize, it's never him to apologize. That also hurts a lot. I just want to forget about him, but everything reminds me of him. It probably sounds like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but we were just really close friends. The new person he's been talking to, i had never liked and he knew that. I was okay with him talking to her when he still talked to me but now he doesn't even talk to me so i feel so replaced...things he use to tell me, like he'd shoot someone if they ever messed with me, really hurts now because I miss him and the way things use to be and i'm not sure if he still feels like that. How do you get over someone you were so close to? :(

Answer 1

It really does sound like a relationship. That's the things with friendships, and relationships. Sometimes they just end. Sometimes the other person needs more, and goes looking somewhere else for that. Maybe he had feelings for you, and decided becasue it was going nowhere, that he'd rather be with someone else, then be suffering waiting around for you. You have a choice though, tell him how you feel, and risk him being a jerk. But at least saying what you need say, to give you closure. Or, leave it this way, and start looking for someone to replace him. I know what it feels like to be replaced by a best friend. I as well have a male best friend, (who is gay) and has replaced me with another female best friend. At first it sucked, because I see pictures on his myspace all the time of him with his new best friend. But then I realized, that I have a life too, I can't based myself on one failed situation. The funny thing is, just recently we went out for coffee, and he told me how much he missing me, and things aren't the same. I guess my point is...maybe he is missing you, just as much as you are missing him.

Answer 2

Try to move on and make other friends. Like friends that know how a friendship works. They should be loyal and show respect for you. He isnt showing any of that towards you. Keep your head held high and go about your business. It is tough and you will miss a lot of things but its time to replace those memories with new ones. Once he sees that you have your own thing going on he might come back around. There are better friends out there who will treat you as friend like you do them.

Answer 3

i'm going thru the same thing....my friend and i haven't spoken for over two months. i love her like a sister, have apologized and tried contacting her, but not reply. the hurt will subside eventually, however she will remain in my heart forever as my best friend. in other words you'll never get "over"...but the pain will subside.

Answer 4

I have...well, maybe had now, a guy friend who's a lot like yours. He hurt one of my other friends severely by saying that he was tired of her and that he wished that they'd never met, ect., and not only did that hurt my friend, it hurt me, too, and now he won't talk to any of us. I just decided to let him come around....if you love them (as a friend), let them go, if they come back, it's meant to be, if they don't...well, then they're not. I hope you and your friend resolve things. <=)