how many times a week is normal for a couple aged 34-36 have sex?
2006-08-07 14:37:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't matter what is "normal". Normal, is just the average of what other people do. People have different levels of sex drives.
I was married for 17 years after dating my x-wife for 3 years. Sex was a big part of the anger issues in our marriage. If you and your husband are happy with the amount of sex that you have, what difference does it make how many times other people do it.
Since you ask the question, I wonder if you and your husband
disagree on the amount of sex you each want? I have come to the opinion that the Bible is right. The Apostle Paul said that neither spouse should ever refuse sex to the other one unless one was sick (I don't thing a cold or a headache qualify - but that's just my opinion) or the wife was having her period.
Obviously this has to be worked out as far as timing goes. If you or your husbands sex drive has decreased, I would get a thorough medical check up as physical problems can cause this.
When I was 35 my sex drive had decreased a little since I was
18 y/o, but then I wanted sex 3 times a day. When I used to work as a R.N. I learned that the peak for mens sex drive was 18 y/o,
While a woman's sex drive peaked about 35 y/o. But then you have to figure in, that men usually have a higher sex drive than women.
I urge you and your husband to talk openly about this as I think that it's important for each of you to have as much sex as you desire. After some years, sex can get kind of humdrum for any couple but can be spiced up by trying new positions, acting out fantasies, doing it in new and different places, etc.
I hope this helped.
2006-08-07 16:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As for how many times you should have sex, I'd say as often as you want, as much as you can physically accomplish, and all that you can without it becoming so that you can't do anything else but have sex. You can think about it all the time, but maybe not do it.
Now, for the reality of it. The average couple 34-36 years of age is 1)becoming increasingly involved in their occupations and 2)may have a baby or two that they're raising. These two will factor into the amount of time and energy they have for sex. Therefore a realistic number of sexual encounters in a week will be affected by them. Nonetheless, sex 3 to 4 times a week is not unrealistic, more if so inclined. Surely it will vary week to week with this age group probably more than any other, with the variance on the plus side.
From personal experience when I was 35 I was having sex 5 or more times a week, and did so until I was about 40, when it tapered off, and then dropped to zero with divorce. I had no children, my work was pressure packed but it seemed to stimulate me so that I sought relief from tension in sex. I have a predisposition toward hyper-sexuality that has only been quelled now in my early 60s due to medication. So, everyone can be quite different and you and your spouse will be then too, and you will find your own level. Not to worry about averages. Enjoy what you have.
2006-08-07 22:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwriter21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Between 0 to 7.
2006-08-07 22:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi im 35yrs and think it depends on many factors. Whether you have kids or busy at work. But with my last partner we would have sex everyday whether we were tired or not. He was very sexually active and I was so attracted to him that it worked really well. We always flirted and both of us are really love touch. You can make love or just have a quicky. But I say go for it. With my ex husband I didnt have as much drive. I have just split with the my latest partner after 2yrs cos he cant commit and I miss him really bad, I think it makes it worse cos we had a good sexual relationship. I think the relationship is alsways closer if you find your partner physically atttractive and you do share sex with eachother often. You can forgive easier and dont seem to be able to hold onto anger as long if they have upset you.
2006-08-07 22:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by tasia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 35 we had kids 1 and 3 years old. Still had time for the 3 a week average.
2006-08-07 22:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure i am 25 and i have sex just about everynite that i dont work which is 5 or 6 nites a week not that old yet but hey id say about 3 or 5 times a week
2006-08-07 21:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by spoyledmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 times a week works fine
2006-08-07 21:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by lynn a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im ur age and married we do it about 2 times a week. cause we are to tired when we go to bed. we have teenagers and work
2006-08-07 22:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As many times as you like providing you are BOTH in the mood
2006-08-07 21:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by Search 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As often as you like. Depends on if you have small children or not, too.
2006-08-07 21:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by HelpOneAnother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋