making a long story short, me and a guy split up because he is still in love with his ex and he doesn't know what he wants in life.(im 20 and he is 32). he tells me to stay away for a couple days and he was not going to call, so i said ok. the following day he called me just to tell me i had mail at my moms. then called me back acting like someone else. after calling 5 times he called from his cell phone and he said it was him and he just wanted to hear my voice. he still acts like were still together by telling me what to do and his own personal opinion. what do you think is going on in his mind and what should i do? i tried talking to him but he won't give me answers. (mind you, he was only with this girl 6 month and has been apart almost a year and the age isn't a problem, he was 18 when he married his 35 yr old wife who is now divorced)
2006-08-07 14:35:12 · 11 answers · asked by me_myself 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he's telling you he's in love with someone else, what more could you possibly hear to move on? It would have to take someone a lot of guts to admit that to their partner, so I would have to say this guy is not into you. It doesn't matter how long he's known someone, you can fall in love in a day with the right person. It sounds like he is using you for either sex or just company, but he has no interest in anything more. Save yourself the heartache and the trouble and just let it go. You can't expect him to just wake up one day and decide he loves you and wants to be with you-it's just not going to happen. It's time to move on and have fun while you're young and can enjoy it.
2006-08-07 14:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by Rexy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well when a person breaks it off with a person, they don't really understand what they lost until the lost it, so he is just going through this stage where he feels like he lost you and just wants to be with what he thinks makes him happy. The actions that he is taking doesn't necessarily mean he wants back in, he is just lost and is trying to figure out what he wants. Maybe give it 2 weeks and see if his actions have changed. But of course if you don't want back in then let him continue until he backs away
2006-08-07 14:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by meangel15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He is still in love with his ex "
He is sooooo playing you.
If you already know that he is still into his ex then what are you doing getting yourself hurt?
Life is too short to be in the middle of others indecisions. Beside you are only 20. Go live your life and stay away of that kind of guys!
2006-08-07 14:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by TikiTiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl... i think you should straiten out if you guys are over or still together first. b/c it's not fare for him to tell you what to do, while he's doing him. if he can't give you a strait answer then i think you should end it, but only you know whats the best for you.
2006-08-07 14:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to back off and to stop calling you or you will get a restraining order against him.. don't let him do that to you ..if your not together with him ... don't even bother with him.... its nothing but trouble and heartach.... move on and find someone else thats knows what he wants ..
2006-08-07 14:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by proud army wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go seek help from a psychologist or something. I'd change my number so he could stop calling me....(hope he's not a staker)
2006-08-07 14:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by kb2five 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is playing head games with you. tell him not to call you until he knows what he wants and if he tries to call DONT ANSWER. play hard to get and see what happens. Dont be too readily available for him and if he wants you he will find you and work for it
2006-08-07 14:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by gamplayr2005@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me as though he is the one with the problem, so he is the one that has to work it out. He is trying to hold on to you while he does all that.....the proverbial cake, and eat it too, routine. If I were you, I would move on!
2006-08-07 14:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, he likes to play mind games.
2006-08-07 14:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was confusing as all get out. Dump him. he's still not grown up.
2006-08-07 14:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by HelpOneAnother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋