My boyfriend wants desperatly to move back to San Antonio. He lives in Corpus Christi (much smaller city)now. I was born and raised in and around this area. So was he until he moved there and got a taste of the big city and liked it. He says he loves me, but he's going to move back with or without me. I have three kids and a lot of family here. I don't want to uproot them. No one has ever made me happier, but my children always come first. He says I like it there, but what he doesn't understand is that I'd be happy wherever we are. Only it's not just about us.
2006-08-07 14:32:09 · 29 answers · asked by n v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The only reason he may want to go is because he has an old girlfriend there. It would be very interesting to know if he really leaves. I can tell you with true certainty, that he if does leave you, than he does not love you..sorry
best wishes
Jb
2006-08-07 14:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Change is good for kids, its not like you are moving them around every other month or once a year.. it is very very important for children to learn how to accept change and to adjust to different situations.... I dont know your kids or what is best, only you do, but also take into consideration that you need to be happy too, so consider really thinking about weather a move would really have a negative effect on your children or if it would just be a change they would have to adjust too. If you think that this relationship is strong enough to last and you dont have any worries that the relationship would end causing your children to endure loosing him AND the change of suroundings well then there is something else to think about, you dont want to give them too much at once. but if you and your bf are other wise strong and happy, then I think the move might do everyone good.. to start over as a family ( I am assuming that he is not their father? I could be wrong)
however if the childrens father is in their life, you might consider staying within a reasonable drive from him.
2006-08-07 14:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he loves you but he is not in love with you. As the cliche goes, if you love something let it go and see if it comes back. Maybe thats what you need to do here. And I commend you on not uprooting your kids just like that. Not many people put them first anymore. Maybe try the long distance thing for a bit and if that works then move out there with him or see if he ll move back. If not then be glad you didnt move there with him. GOOD LUCK TO YOU
2006-08-07 14:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by maisyday07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short. If he makes you & THE KIDS happy. See if you can get someone to keep the kids for about a week or two and go with him to check it out. I don't blame you for not triing to just pick up and go. Go for a visit that will answer your questions. Shoot ...visit a couple of times on the weekend it no rush. Good Luck
2006-08-07 14:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by Peek@u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on exactlly how much u love him and if u would like the big city life or not ur kids if they are young they willbe ok to move have u asked them about it and u have to really think about this not just a few days try a few months and see how it works out talk to ur b/f and let him know ur feelings on moving and see what he says he might just end up staying there with u if he loves u that much good luck
2006-08-07 14:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by spoyledmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your kids come first then there isn't much you can do. If they are preschool age I would say its ok to go with him and come back for visits every now and then. Although if they are in school it wouldn't be fair to uproot them. Ultimately, its your decision and no one elses.
2006-08-07 14:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by SquirrelBait 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont sound like he loves you very much if he is ready to up and move without you.Why dose he want to move so bad?Children need a good stable enviroment and should stay in one place,let him go and if he truly loves you,then he will not stay gone without you.
2006-08-07 14:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to understand the importance of your children and what your extended family means to you. Obviously, he is going to move back regardless. If this is where your values are, then let him go.
2006-08-07 14:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you 2 been together? Your kids come 1st and if you think it would be hard to leave with them, then don't leave. how much would it suck to move up there only to have him leave you in 3 months when he found a better deal in another woman?
2006-08-07 14:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by JLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he would not make you choose between him and your children and family, it seems as if he is making you choose, if he doesn't stay and you feel like you have to ask us this question look into your heart and see if you really love him sometimes that is all that matters. If he is leaving i don't think he truly loves u. If they love you they will stay by your side.
2006-08-07 14:37:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋