how's possible ,i love someone from 3yrs now i want to breakup.i feel so sorry when my bf doesn't care my personal issue...but he says he truly love me...i can't see any love for me..we r in long distance now..it might be the reason ,he's like me.2days ago i had really bad time well im still running with my prob.i felt like i need him.the way he's acted and now he's not even sorry ab it.what should i do...im planning to marry him.but will i be happy?i don't wanna pick him wrong ever time...he thinks whateva he do it is the best...i want care,a sympathy from my bf which all girls want...but bad luck of me i can't leave him or live my entire life..
2006-08-07 13:47:55 · 8 answers · asked by ZZZ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear ZZZ -the fact that you have three years invested in the relationship and you " now want to breakup" shows that you realize he is not the life partner for you right now. You say you love him and, as caringly as you write, you feel things deeply. A loving relationship is through "thick and thin", sickness and health, tough times and great times. He hasn't shown you the support that you need. It sounds like you've talked with him about this, but "he thinks whatever he does it is best". You know he has a lot of growing up to do and, until he learns to care about someone else besides himself and show it, he cannot fulfill his life or share yours. If you are not happy with things as they are (and you shouldn't be), it would only be worse right now with marriage -- because he will think you accept him just the way he is. Pray on it, try to talk with him again how important this is to you. Try to have him imagine what it would feel like if he told you about a terrible day he had, you yawned and opened a soda and turned on the television (or whatever example you think he would understand). If he shrugs and goes off to do his thing, he still doesn't get it and will lose the best thing in his life - You. God bless you and please let us know how you're doing.
2006-08-07 14:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Serena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First dont feel sorry about your boy friend.He has his own priority and agenda.You loved him for 3 years and by this time you must be knowing about him and his lack of concern for you.He can never keep you happy.So please dont get married to him.Its the worst decision you could ever make.He was not there when u needed him and what makes you think he will better off after marriage?I know how you feel.
You need some one to care and feeling insecured.Dont say sympathy call it concern and caring for you and your feelings.Why cant you leave him?and where does this bad luck come from?. Your self sympathy is not going to get you anywhere.You can never be happy with him.You would placing your life as well as his in misery.How you expect to live your entire life to a person who does not show any concern?Come out of this relationship.lead your life.Time waits for no one.Its possible if you think so.So no more self sympathy.You can do it.Good luck.
2006-08-07 14:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by rajan kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, the same here and i've made up my mind. If i do find someone else, i'll leave him because i want to be happy and loved not thinking about how he feels about me if he trully like me or not. 3 Years too...i'm at this point now that i really don't care anymore even if i really do love him, i want to have a happy and cuddly love life. Don't worry when the time comes, you'll meet the person that'll treat u like a queen. Might be him, or not but be patient.
2006-08-07 13:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by young kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any REASONABLE doubts about the person you are thinking of marrying, DON'T!
In fact, even if your doubt is not a reasonable one, don't.
We have a 50% divorce rate, and though most people don't want to talk about it, or deny it, there are plenty of young people who simply don't want to marry a divorced man or woman. That means it is actually harder to marry the second time, though most women don't realize this.
I think you need some counseling on this issue, because your question is not real clear.
2006-08-07 13:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, please.....get real here. Your "boyfriend" is just not into you! Forget it......move on. It is not going to work so what is it going to take to wake you up? If you are having a "bad time" then that is on you.....make some positive decisions and stop crying about your life!
2006-08-07 13:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are drowning in self-pity. You sould not get married if you feel the way you do, and not getting what it is you want from your boyfriend.
2006-08-07 13:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by D L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love him the way you used to. I don't see this relationship as a healthy one. Sorry
2006-08-07 13:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with him and talk!
2006-08-07 13:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by Someone 2 good 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋