2006-08-07 13:39:10 · 20 answers · asked by tessebell29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best way to end a marriage with children involved is for both of you to sit down with them and explain to them that even though you both love them more than life itself, it is just impossible for you two to live together anymore. Tell them that you will still be their Mommy and their Daddy no matter what happens. But try not to make it ugly in the court room. And never discuss how you feel about one another in front of the children. When parents do that, they feel like it is their fault even though it isn't.
2006-08-07 13:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW old are the children and how old are you and what are you the female or the male the best way to end a marriage is to leave the marriage being friends .don't you think why do people have to leave relationships being arch enemies?? and depends on who is best for the children you or the mother or are you the mom>>and also women are not always the best caregivers eh? and sometime the man is not the best care giver either you just simply did not give enough info./ sorry.
2006-08-07 13:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by bloomsatnoon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very hard question to answer and noone would ever be able to give you the best answer. My parents divorced when i was 9 and my younger ones were 5, but we all grew up as respected individualls with our degrees and no drugs, gangs, out of wedlock pregnancy, and so on of that sort. I believe if you guys come to an agreement that you don't want to be together, but both still be there for the kids, you won't have no problems. I grew with kids from homes with 2 parents and we behaved better and discipilned. Don't be scared or worried, pray over it and you'll be able to find a solution. Take care and i hope the best for you.
2006-08-07 14:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by young kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it civilly. There is no reason to be an example of a low human being because your feelings are hurt. Your kids see what you do and the choices you make. You cant be sure how much this will effect them later in life, but they will always remember the reactions you have in stressfull situations. Its a shame your marriage isnt working out, but dont make them pay for it.
I know civility is dependant on both people, but no matter what your spouse does, it isnt worth the temporary satisfaction you get from sinking to new lows over the little details.
2006-08-07 13:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. It will get VERY messy, and you need to have a good lawyer. If you are contentious with your spouse, the children will most likely get a law guardian, who basically speaks on their behalf.
If you are not contentious with your spouse, and you have both agreed to separate, it would be best to sit them down and explain that you are going to split up, but you both still love all of them very much, and will do 100% of what you can to make sure they are happy, and that they can still trust both of you.
In either of these situations: emphasize that nothing is their fault! Divorce is very common nowadays, but children being comfortable with it is not. It is POSSIBLE to keep children happy while dissolving a marriage.
I'd suggest having a counselor come in once a week to talk with them about what their feelings are about the split up. Its imperitive that they know what is happening and understand - even if they're two years old!
2006-08-07 13:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by sjbchapman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way. Make sure you get your kids into consoling. In school my kids had a group called KIM(kids in the middle). Talk to their teachers, school counselors. It will be hard but be their for them. Let them yell scream cry. They have to get it out too, remember they have feelings and are people too, not like my ex husband. And most of all DON'T bad mouth their other parent. With your love guidance patience and time they will be okay. If they don't want to be around you or your EX do not push them, they will come around. Good Luck to you, and God Bless
2006-08-07 13:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to resolve the 'adult' issues can be tenuous, but if you have children, make sure that their well-being is paramount. Many spouses vindicate eachother by using the children as weapons and say bad things about one another to the kids. Emphasize that both mom and dad love them very much and that this is not their fault. Good luck
2006-08-07 13:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By being as cooperative with each other as possible. No arguing in front of the children and no airing any dirt about your spouse to the children.
2006-08-07 13:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are all in high school, I would recommend waiting until they go to college, if at all possible.
If they are in any other stage of schooling, it is not worth the pain of holding up a false marriage to protect them because in the end it will damage them more.
2006-08-07 13:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by Alex M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't! try to work it out that is just hurting your children!
I have two questions...
1. Why did you marry him in the first place if you knew you did not like him?
2. Why did you have sex with him? Can't you see you just ruiend inocent lives of children???
2006-08-07 13:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by kutesoccerchic 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋