What's the worst problem you have faced and conquered in your marriage/long-term relationship?

Question

Details, please. How did you solve the problem/resolve the conflict? Are you glad you tackled the thing?

Answer 1

My car accident was very hard on my marriage.I was t-boned(by another man-his fault)and was seriously injured.I had over 5 operations in two days.Then spent 15 days in the hospital and 15 days in a nursing home.My hubby brought me home and had to take complete care of me and our 4 kids 24/7.He had to bathe me,clean me after the restroom,cook,etc,etc.It was alot for him and me and our kids.We just hung in there,together,and communicated and things got better.He is a very strong man and father,that's how we stayed together.I am about to undergo surgery again,for the car accident-hip replacement,and he will have to do it all again for 2-3 months.Communication is the key to any healthy marriage.Good luck

Answer 2

What's the worst problem you have faced and conquered in your marriage/long-term relationship? Answer: Infidelity

Details, please. How did you solve the problem/resolve the conflict? Are you glad you tackled the thing?

We talked, cried, and yelled. In the end we knew it was a mistake, and we got over it.

Answer 3

After 17 years of marriage I've about wore out this little problem: At least once a year I'm ready to kick my wife out, get a divorce or walk out the door and never look back. This is very serious consideration. Last year I went so far as investigating divorce law, finding low cost or no cost divorce websites, etc. In 17 years, my wife has never changed. She is lazy, she is a poor lover and now disinterested in it (I've sought to help her, provide excitement and romance; but she's still no good and won't learn), she doesn't listen, she takes and gives grudgingly, etc. All things that once or twice a year I get fed up about.

I have overcome these urges to divorce by making lists of what is good about her, as opposed to what is not, what I find that she does do as opposed to what she doesn't, and in this way I have avoided divorce for 17 years. I know one year will come when the urge to divorce won't be there anymore.

Answer 4

Wife's total lack of interest in sex. We talked and we both worked on it. We are fine now. Took a while. I am very glad we tackled it. Communication is the best route to solving all marital problems. It is worth the effort.

Answer 5

I have been married for 4 years but it was traumatic after the first year till just 6 months back. it was inlaws poking their nose all over,Sil being a witch,her no good husband acting like a big shot,lots of problems with spouse.In the end i took a drastic step 6 months back and brought my marriage back to track.

Answer 6

I have been married for 12 years and had an affair 7 years ago. I did not get caught but instead told my husband what I was doing and why. It of course was devastating for him and it took a long time of answering all the questions he had about the other man, both emotionally and sexually but we got through it with lots of talking and me proving I could be trusted again.

Answer 7

Just bored in general. Haven't tackled it yet. Still working on getting the nerve to look at the man I vowed to love forever and who has given me a beautiful son and say "Honey I would rather watch paint dry then spend another day pretending that I love my life with you!"

Answer 8

One time I was dating a guy and he had other women's phone numbers. He told me he wasn't seeing anyone else, those numbers belonged to these women's brothers. He never saw or heard from me again. I tackled that problem alright, he found out I didn't need or want someone like that in my life.

Answer 9

My Ex was verbally abusive to me. I was in such a depression, which he didn't even notice. He then went out and got himself a "friend" I told him it was me or her. He chose her. It was the best thing that happened. I didn't think so at the time, but after binging way from him I realized how abusive he was, and controlling. I still have more work to do on my self esteem but my new husband is wonderful, loves me unconditionally, and for who I am.

Answer 10

my wife had an affair with a old ex boy friend who at the time was also married and had just started working part time as a cop in our little town . when i found out i went and filed for divorce . soon after i retaliated by sleeping with another woman,after words i felt guilty i still missed my wife. one day while driving to work a vision, or what i believe was a message from GOD , i was driving along feeling very sad, after all this was not the first time i had been hurt in such a way my first wife too had all most destroyed me in the same way. so you see, i was very sad indeed when a great feeling of betrayal came over me , i had taken her and her three girls and provided them with food shelter and the best i could at love . while feelling such imense betrayel it was then that the message came to me: you say you know love ,you say you love your wife, jesus my son loved the world and gave his life for it, he was spat apon kicked hit and much worse yet he gave his life for it because he loved us ,and every time i sin each day i wonder dose he feel betrayed by me?here i am trying to be a christian falling short every day. i wonder dose he feel betrayed by me, yet he continues to love me and forgive me, so then to find love and under stand it, and live it , i stoped the divorce, and learned how to fogive, and in doing so i believe i have reached a new understaning or level of love, and my wife and i have worked things out thanks to GOD and His son Jesus!!!!!!! the short version !!!!!!!