what would make you choose to be unfaithful to your love?? what would be the one thing that would cause you to

Question

be unfaithful on any level??????anybody have any stories about why they cheated or what they would cheat for?????????

Answer 1

I chose to cheat on my wife because I caught her cheating on me for the second time. I thought we both made real changes to improve our marriage after the first time only to see her doing it again , with yet another guy, and I found she was also still in contact with the first guy. I sunk to the lowest level of my life seeing her do this to me again. It was pretty easy to find a willing woman to have occasional sex with and I thought it was going to help me . It didn't. I felt guilty and as much as a skank as my wife is. The only thing different is my wife never found out I was cheating. I ended the cheating before taking a stand to her about all the cheating she has done to wreck this marriage. I told her as far as I was concerned, our marriage is over, I tried, you didn't. She has asked for another chance. So far so good. I have a long way to go to regain any faith in her. I will give her this last chance, only because of our children.

Answer 2

At least for me it was never a conscience decision to cheat. It is the accumulation of lots of little things generally involving honest communication. Little dishonesties or ommissions make the next one easier. Concentrating on your partners faults rather than being grateful for their good qualities. Once youve been with someone a while it becomes easy to critisize them and overlook the same or similar qualities in others. It always boils down to a lack of communicating ones own true feelings, after all no body can read our mind if we expect something we need to say it rather than be resentful that we didnt get what we didnt ask for.

Answer 3

I used to cheat on my boyfriends. I cheated for a number of different reasons. Sometimes I cheated because I just didn't like the person anymore (this was in my teens when people don't typically have the most committed of relationships...), and sometimes I cheated because I liked the person I was dating, but I liked the opportunity-boy so much more and hey, I knew I wasn't going to end up with either of them.

But for 2 years, I dated a verbally and emotionally abusive man who I was convinced I was in love with, and I felt out of control because no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't STOP cheating on him. Looking back on it, its clear to me that when he would insult me and berate me, I would go to another man who would compliment me and hold me all night. That rebuilt my confidence and I was able to go back to my steady boyfriend.

Now I've been with a man for a year and we're getting engaged. I've never felt the urge to cheat on him. Sometimes I wonder why, after so many years of cheating, I never ever even think about it. A big part of it is my love for him, and i think the rest is just maturity. A commitment doesn't just magically come from nowhere, its a choice that you and your partner have to make. I'm mature enough now to know that even if I ever DID find myself in the situation where I thought about cheating, I'm mature enough to know the consequences.

Trust me, if you've been cheated on, they will never forgive themselves. I was a cheater, so I knew many other cheaters, and eventually we all learned to hate ourselves for what we did - intentionally hurting other people. I still talk to people who are mature enough that they don't cheat anymore, and they are all sorry for what they did, as am I.

I hope you weren't cheated on, but if you were, remember the world keeps turning.

Answer 4

if you really cared or loved the person you were with, there would be no reason to cheat. you have to think about how you would like to be treated, and that all people deserve respect. if you plan on cheating....get out of the relationship, this way no one gets hurt too badly

Answer 5

i choose to be faithful but so tempted to cheat its like he doesnt feel the need to be affectionate but we have to kids and been together 15 years and its hard to keep holding on to an occasional compliment and we have awesome sex but hes always worried about the kids being in the same house so its not real often so i guess you could be tempted for pleasure and spontanous affection like its natural instead of routine

Answer 6

I don't think it would be only one thing that makes a person wander away. when some one cheats they usually are not getting their needs met and usually has nothing to do with sex. they usually are emotionally deprived

Answer 7

Nothing..........I take my marriage vows seriously.