My boyfriend is overall a good guy, but there's something he's been doing lately that annoys me. I haven't said anything because I don't know how to approach it without coming off as perhaps "hostile" or "b!tchy".
My boyfriend is around 5'10 and is overweight. Lately, he has commented on me not being toned and I think he has no room to talk. I'm 5'5 and 130 lbs. I'm not at all overweight, even if I'm not toned. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend's feelings because I love him and like I said, for the most part, he is a good guy. I get so annoyed when he says that and by other things... like I get annoyed at how much he eats. It's ridiculous. I've tried changing what we make at home, but I can't control what he eats during work hours. Even last night, he at 2 huge pieces of pie and I was disgusted by it, but kept my mouth shut. How could he say anything about me not being toned when he's not so skinny himself?!
2006-08-07 13:20:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you're man is overwight and making you feel bad about being "toned" that's straight up bulls**t!!! I'm all about preserving someone's feelings...especially if I care about them as much as you say you do. BUT obviously someone's not considering another's feelings. Grab your balls and let's tell big boy that he's repulsive when he eats. He shold absolutely not make fun of you for being big if he's bigger!
2006-08-07 13:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by rebel_sweetheart_15_06 2 · 16⤊ 2⤋
If the mother is not going to difference then there's not anything extra you'll be able to do. The dad demands to talk to her however due to the fact that he would possibly not then all you'll be able to do is furnish healthful meals and prohibit his indoor amusement. The unhealthy factor is that the child suffers for the loss of accountability the mum and dad are inclined to take. It's well he has you in his lifestyles. Hopefully someday the child will desire to difference for himself and you'll be able to advisor him. Oh, if you happen to repair meals for supper and he refuses it, don't repair him whatever else. You aren't a brief order cook dinner. Also positioned the meals he didn't consume within the refrigerator. Then whilst he comes to a decision he's hungry later then pull it out and hot it up. He can consume that rather of the typical snack meals.
2016-08-28 11:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by pharisien 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be annoyed. Seems that the pot is calling the kettle black so to say. Maybe he is feelin secure because you are in better shape than he is and he is afraid that you will leave him, so he is being insulting to hide his insecurity. This isn't logical, I know, but hey...he is a man. You might, gently point out to him about his eating and his being out of shape. Tell him you want to love him a long time and if he keeps being unhealthy he won't be around for very long.
2006-08-07 13:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by loriahaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I think it's wrong for him to judge you, and it would be even if he was skinny. You're not overweight... If you are, what would it be, a couple pounds?
If he isn't happy about how you are and you're not happy with him, then why are you together? Go over that in your mind.
2006-08-07 13:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by Slippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is putting his weight problem on you. He is probably unhappy with his weight, and he is taking it out on you. Tell him that weight is not the problem, it's the attitude. You should be happy with who you are... not who other people wants you to be.
2006-08-07 14:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by thebillshow2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I would go off on him and if he was smart, that fat Humpty Dumpty would keep his mouth shut.
2006-08-07 13:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just calmy sit down with him and tell him everything you've just said. you love him and your concerned about his weight and his health. if he loves you he'll understand that and try to make some changes.
2006-08-07 13:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him he knew what you were like when he got w/ you if he does not like it now then take a walk!
2006-08-07 13:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by snowball24life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋