i've been friends with these 4 girls for almost 4 yrs. but this year it seems like they've kind of excluded me. they're not inviting me to their bday parties and keeping secrets from me that they wouldn't have a year or two ago. what should i do? they're really great people but it seems like maybe i annoy them or something. but i don't know how bcuz i just hang out with them and talk and stuff. plus i never even spill secrets or backstab any of them. what's going on and what can i do to fix it?
2006-08-07 13:06:24 · 7 answers · asked by docssweetie08 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i just called it a friendship ring cuz it's like a group but we're not like a specific group like skaters or preps or nerds or anything. we're kind of a mixture. maybe i should've called it a friendship circle or something.
2006-08-07 13:29:26 · update #1
Whats wrong with you?Nothing! seems like you are too nice and that your so called friends have the problem. Do yourself a favor and find some new ones. Friends don't keep secrets from friends and friends hand out together, so that says a lot about your so called friends doesn't it. You sound as though you would be a good friend to have so I'm quite sure that it wont take you long to find any. "Good luck to you "and don't let it get you down.
2006-08-07 13:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all "a friendship ring" is kind of lame and not only that, if it is a ring that means that nobody else is allowed in so i think you should've broken out of that "ring" along time ago just to see what else is out there. Sometimes you stay with a group for so long because you are too scared to venture out, but if you do it makes you more aloof and people will like you better for recognizing that people other than your "friends" exsist!
2006-08-07 20:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are probably two things you could then try
one is to take them on one side one at a time and ask what it is they think you are doing to annoy them - then you are in a better position to take action and change things for the better
if that doesn't work then you may be better placed to form another friendship group
i know what it is like - i was part of a group who played EVERNIGHT when for reasons that were never explained to me the entire community (bar one or two) decided to do the same thing to me. needless to say i cancelled my subscription (and a few loyal people did likewise too over those events) so that the game no longer benefited from our subscription fees
i wish i could tell you that adults behave better than that - but on that occasion they didn't
human nature at its worst
2006-08-07 20:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have been through this myself it feels pretty bad except they went aroud and told everyone not to talk to me.I would try asking them what have u doen for them to b mad at u.If it is something small&stupid just see if they can let it fly by.try to hangout with them and b part of the group
2006-08-07 20:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by Waz Up? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,maybe therye offended by you for some reason? talk to them about it, i mean, thats the most direct aproach.im not going to give the grade-school answer (spread rumors about them...ect.) that just makes them more ticked at you.
2006-08-07 20:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously they are jealous of you for some reason. and i wouldnt even sweat them.they werent real friends in the first place. find some REAL FRIENDS. SMILE
2006-08-07 20:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to talk to them about it, tell them this is bugging you and if they blow you off then you know that these ppl must not be true friends.
2006-08-07 20:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋