2006-08-07 12:49:51 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To answer your question, once the bond of trust is broken, you will NEVER trust him completely like you did in the beginning. You might continue on with him, but you will never trust him100%.
2006-08-07 12:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of depends on the magnitude of the lie. Was it a little white lie that he maybe told to avoid hurting your feelings, or was it a whopper that he told in order to cover up the fact that he was doing something that he knew you wouldn't approve of? Mostly it will just take time. Trust is very fragile and, once broken, can be very difficult to regain. Communication is the key. Talk it out with him and let him know of your concerns. If he is truly sorry for lying, he will apologize and promise not to do it again.
Good luck!
2006-08-07 12:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by marlio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did he lie about? I think it depends on what he lied about, how important it is to you. Why did he lie? What was the purpose in his lie and just tell him, it really is more important for him to tell you the truth than for him to lie, because once you find out that he lied he has hurt your feelings and makes you wonder what else he has possibly lied about...unless he has lied to you a multitude of times I would say give him the benefit of the doubt.
2006-08-07 13:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to advise when the lie is unknown. Did he lie about eating the last ice cream bar or about how much money he took out of the savings account? My response would vary depending on the subject of the lie. It would also matter if he came clean first, or if you found out on your own.
2006-08-07 13:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Liars suck, but he is your husband and you need to build the trust back because you are married, after all. It also depends on the seriousness of the lie...how bad was it?
2006-08-07 13:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out why and then judge him on that...be sure you believe the answer...maybe there is more to the story...maybe he is covering up something big or maybe he was just trying to protect you or your feelings...marriage is hard!!! a lie can't break it up...work it out and give it your best shot to understand why he lied...people give up too easy these days...everyone makes mistakes...you will too...trust takes a long time and is hard to secure, but you can ...if you want to and he wants to earn it....
2006-08-07 12:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by m m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did you husband lie about if it is not cheating or sex that you can never trust him again? is it a financial or abusive problem?
2006-08-07 12:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Looking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can, but it really does depend on what he lied about. Seek counseling if you really feel a deep issue with it...if he thinks it is no big deal...could be symptomatic of a bigger issue...and you might be afraid of what you discover.
2006-08-07 12:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever held the truth or lied to your husband? If so, let it go, if not scream like hell
2006-08-07 12:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by Paris Flea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee that really depends on a lot of things that you obviously did not explain.
For instance my wife says she's going to do stuff all the time, and then doesn't do it, do you consider that a lie? Technically I suppose it is, but it's not enough for me to divorce her. hehe.
2006-08-07 12:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋