Have you ever been in love with someone you couldn't have? Someone that was also in love with you?
Someone you know could make you happy and you could make them happy?
How did you handle that situation? To know who the love of your life is but not be able to be with them? Did it work out?
2006-08-07 12:39:51 · 9 answers · asked by sexychik1977 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well...I've tried to answer this question a couple of times, and when I've read what I wrote, it just seems too personal, so I erase it.
But I will say this.
A person needs to be true to themself, and sometimes that causes pain to another person. But, in being true to themself, they need to be certain, that the fantasy that WAS is not overriding the reality that IS. Sometimes what was, seems so much better than what is, but sometimes...we don't let ourselves see all of that reality, and it clouds our judgement. Then we fall under the spell of the fantasy, and make an even bigger mistake, than we think we made. On the other hand...sometimes the reality IS what should have been. In that case, we need to decide if that reality is the one we want, and all that, that includes, whether it be good or bad.
I'll add this too...
I've faced more death in my life than the average person, and I gotta be honest with you. The "what if's" and the "I wonder's" and the "why didn't I's" all make a person feel like they are losing their mind after a while. I've finally learned that life IS short, and I have a little bit of control over what happens while I'm here.
It's not selfish to want to be happy.
2006-08-07 14:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by persnickety1022 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MY STORY
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I was in a long distance relationship, I loved her to death and she felt the same way. the problem is that she often felt lonely and I couldn't be there for her on the most special moments of her life. I just couldn't stand to hear her cry over the phone because she missed me so much. we were so faithful to each other that we would not go out on the weekends instead we would sit at home and chat with our web cams. I really wanted to go live with her but at that time we were just kids. we were boyfriend and girlfriend for 7 years. at one point I realized that she might be better of without me. I figured that if we were meant for each other we will some how later on find a way to be with each other. its been 2 years since I last heard anything from her but just recently I heard from someone that she is moving to California (that's were I live). who knows maybe after all we do end up together.
In conclusion: you never know what life has prepared for you, just be ready when it gives it to you or you might lose it forever.
2006-08-07 12:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by Tommy vercetti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer to all your questions is "yes" with the exception of the last one, which would be no.
Wow! I could've written this question myself! I recently reconnected with someone I felt/feel this way about and it's been almost overwhelming. We didn't speak for 12 years, but those years seem like hours. We can't be together, at least now we can't. We both feel like our pride got in the way back then and that now we both have regrets about that. We often wonder what would've happened if we had just spoke one or two sentences differently. We both have good lives, they just seem incomplete.
2006-08-07 23:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by kojak0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all to be IN love you must love that person and they must love you back. So since we got that out the way. How is it that this person love you and you love them but you cant be together. There must be a legitimate barrier holding you back like age or something and if that is what it is then. There you go you can't work it out because if you do then one of you will more then likely go to jail or something. Think about your situation first. Good Luck.
2006-08-07 12:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by thugangel19842002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation what makes it to where you can't have this person. Are you both taken? If you both feel so strongly about it then give it a chance. You'll never know until you try it out. You've obviously been fooling around if you guys love each other so much.
2006-08-07 12:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Kit Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd be at the set of coronation road! In idea I wager if not anything ever happend,there might had been no Big Bang which might imply that stipulations for life might no longer had been created!! In physics isn't there a regulation that states EVERY ACTION HAS AN EQUAL AND OPPOSITTE REACTION?? Therefore if there used to be no preliminary movement,evoloution might no longer exist.... Cool! Existential questions:)
2016-08-28 11:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by pharisien 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I am sort of going through that right now, I found him, but he is so far away. he wants to be with me, and I him, and I know that some day we will be.. just takes time
2006-08-07 12:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take one day at a time......but now my head hurts....
2006-08-07 12:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by itty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my head hurts
2006-08-07 12:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by seth w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋