My wife works for a coporation with people older than her. She will be the youngest mother there?

Question

We plan to have our first baby soon. Hopefully the baby will be born right before my wife's 25th birthday. I will be 27.

My wife says she feels uncomfortable talking about babies with her co-workers because they are older than her and think she is too young for a baby.

The women at her work are 30 and older and have little babies.

My wife's boss just had her first child at 32 and there are women there having babies at 40.

Any advice to give her since she will be the youngest mother at her work? She feels like an outcast.

How am I an idiot?

I need to support my wife. She feels like an outcast because no one at her work had their children in their 20's.

She is looked down upon in the corporate world.

Answer 1

Feel confident that SHE will be the expert on HER baby, just as these mothers are all experts on THEIR OWN babies. After all, none of them live with your family so they can't possibly know your baby the same way she will.

Answer 2

Here in Mexico most of the women get pregnant between 20 and 25 years old, but it is true that the ages are increasing.
The age to have a baby is a personal decission, indeed after 30 years most health risks arises for both mother and baby, so I would say 27 is a very good age.

Answer 3

I'm not sure why she should feel like an outcast...if anything she will have something in common with these women because she IS having a baby.

Age doesn't have anything to do with having a baby....maturity and financial stability does. If you 2 are mature enough to have a baby then go for it...who's to tell you different.

Honestly, I think it's her hormones right now that is making her feel this way. Once she has the baby everything will be O.K.

Answer 4

I'm having the same problem, except I am the only one having a baby at my work. I'm 21 and my fiance is 23. The people at my company are 40+ and are done having kids...they think I'm too young, and look down at me for being pregnant. I just try and be as positive as possible! Even if she just tries to be over happy towards them, they might leave her alone about it. My co-workers are getting better about this now...now that I act so excited about this baby. Just tell her to keep her head up and enjoy her pregnancy...stressing out isn't good for her health or the babys.

Congrats and good luck with everything!

Answer 5

Please tell her that those women likely had to go through fertility treatments, because they are not of the healthiest childbearing age. Fertility naturally declines quite rapidly after age 25, and having a child HER age is the norm! They are the unusual ones. Only a couple decades ago, women normally had their children at an appropriate childbearing age. Pregnancies were less complicated. Now, as women are waiting longer to get married, they are not having their children until later in life. Assure her that she is the norm, and not the exception. There are many wonderful chatrooms and boards she can join to meet other mothers of a natural childbearing age. She may not have much in common with the women at her work. Tell her to realize she is what is natural, and the other women may actually be envious! Tell her not to let it hold her back in spending time with them or talking and sharing with them. She is the perfect age to have a child.

Answer 6

What your wife will find is that being a mom is a pretty social experience; she will meet and befriend women of all ages and backgrounds with the common denominator being like-aged children. I'm an 'older' mom and have made some wonderful friends with women 10 years younger than me, as we support each other as moms. Moms LOVE to share their experiences, and new moms can in fact learn quite a bit, but be sure to let your wife know what a great mother she is, and support her mothering instincts... pretty soon she will be able to join in the "mommy talk" as well as any seasoned mother in the office.

Good luck to you both!

Answer 7

She's obviously going to be pregnant! If they all have babies already, they will love giving her lots of advice and maybe even baby things.

I learned with having my baby (I was the same age she is right now) to never give descriptions of what was happening at home, to listen attentively to all advice and then IGNORE IT!

There's no need to promise to do anything! I didn't bring my 'issues' or 'problems' or 'questions' to anyone at work or other places; I talked to the pediatrician, the advice nurse and my husband whenever I had a question.

This way, everything is kept in its appropriate place. I hope you enjoy your new family!

Answer 8

She should not let them make her feel like an outcast. It is more uncommon to have kids in your mid 30s and 40s than in your 20s... Also, older women often have more problems so she should consider herself lucky...

I am pregnant right now (I am 29) and I wouldn't let it bother me if I were her. Just be glad to know that her body is in prime condition to deal with motherhood. Congrats on the new one! Don't let anybody ruin it for you guys...

Answer 9

she should not feel outcast. many people have children younger than you do.. think of this way, by the time your first kid become 18 yrs old. your wife would still be 43 years young vs 50's with her co-workers. my wife and i had our first baby when she was 24, and she is very happy

Answer 10

that is sad and i have to say you must be a great husband to be so concerned for your wife's feelings!! i kind of know what your talking about not exactly the same way but basicly the same idea ..i had my son when i was very young(14) and when my son started school i went to every thing all the field trips and all the partys,if it had to do with school i was there hes going to be in the 7th grade this year and its easier for me now but back in elementary all the other parents didnt really talk to me they just looked at me like i didnt belong there and it really hurt my feelings that they just bunched up and ignored me..it was like they all had something in common but i didnt belong..just let your wife know that she will make a great mother no matter what her age!! tell her if she wants to get in on the baby talk at work to just go for it start talking about her excitment and her fears maybe they can help her with questions she may have since they allready have children ..tell her to ask them about their babies and how they r and stuff like that because usually they will then ask her about hers, if there is one thing that will get women talking it is asking all about their kids!..and i think once she starts talking to them she will forget all about the age difference and so will they !!..if they are the snooty type like the mothers at my sons school she would be better off just to remember that its just work and it makes no difference in her life what these people think about her and her family because at the end of the day she has a great husband and a beautiful healthy baby at home waiting for her!!

Answer 11

I'm sorry to hear that your wife feels uncomfortable, unfortunately there are going to be several more incidents like this because everyone has their own opinion. Tell her to hold her head up high and maybe she can talk about baby stuff around 'normal' people. Good Luck!!