my man has been acting really different for about a month does that mean that he is cheaing or just really stressed out and can't handle it?
2006-08-07 12:16:03 · 17 answers · asked by jennf56 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lately he has been to busy for me and this weekend he snapped at me in public and he has never done that before. he also asked for head and when I said no he just rolled over and then got up
2006-08-07 12:34:20 · update #1
I was in the same situation too. My fiance just out of the blue started acting different. I knew he wasn't cheating and the stress part...yeah he had some, but to come to reality...he was using drugs. Drugs can change your behavior in a very big way. So when he's not in a grumpy mood...ask him if he's using? He might come clean about it and then again he might. He may or may not be doing this, but it's something to think about.
2006-08-15 04:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stress can tear a man apart, particularly if it's hitting his self esteem (feeling inadequate/undesired in career or bed). It can lead to distance, anger, fear... it can turn him upside down. That's when he needs love,affection, reassurance and support the most. And, that's when you deliberately refused it.
What I find amazing in your question is that you're afraid (without any evidence) that he may be cheating and you respond by being sexually unresponsive. You rejected him physically and, as his wife, refused to meet his needs. He didn't get angry, or judgmental. He just rolled over and got up. What did you expect him to do? Be all happy and joyful?
2006-08-07 19:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't always mean that he's cheating. First, you have to understand that men HATE being rejected. And they don't understand that just because we don't feel like giving them head right then, we are not rejecting them. You need to ask him what's on his mind/bringing him down. If he acts stupid with you, blaming you for things, turning things around to make it seem like it's your fault sometimes that is a sign of cheating. If he is all of sudden more concerned with his appearance, acting funny about money, finds fault in everything you do, those are signs of cheating.
2006-08-15 19:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by applegirl1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can mean soooooooo many things. Try not to worry about it please. I would ask him, and I would believe the words he says.You don't have to ask him if he is cheating. Ask him what is going on...tell him he is not himself lately and it has you concerned. Don't think about..well if he is having an affair he won't tell me..just listen to what he says. If it makes some sense ..then believe it. I know it's hard because there is no way of knowing for 100%. Trust is a choice..at least that is what my therapist used to tell me. You either choose to trust or you choose not to.
If you start seeing more signs...then that is when you need to talk to him about your concerns about an affair. Even then, you could be wrong.Good luck to you!
2006-08-07 19:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a guy...men act differently because of stress....most guys are too afraid to cheat.....and are very attached....but in the working world (not saying that women don't experience it) but guys get stressed by anything and everything....guys act different...physically and socially by stress....they can be mean.....or not talk at all....a lot of it is stress...has anything stressful like a pregnancy or family situation come up???
2006-08-14 21:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by Yogaflame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be anything. If you think he is cheating, you can ask him, if you can live with the answer. There is another way to find out, just have sex with him every day and wear him out so that he has no energy left. Give him what he asked for and you can request the same of him. That might purk up your marriage. Go for it.
2006-08-13 15:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different how? Could be stress, men handle it differently than women. You need to sit down and talk about it with him.
2006-08-07 19:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean by different. ALL people and relationships for that matter go through stressful periods. I would need more information about his behavior in order to answer your question.
2006-08-07 19:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question - be suspicisou of truly abherrant behavior; totally different. Ask about it - it may be stress. Commiunication is imprortant, but don't go down the paranoid road...
2006-08-15 12:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by zucapazzi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it could be stress, but don't ignore the signs he seems to be giving you. If he doesn't have time for you...what is he doing with his time.? Apparently, you are not as important to him as he is to you. Sorry, just being honest.
2006-08-15 12:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋