I've been married for a few years now and my wife treats all of us poorly. I have 2 children and she is starting to treat them that way. Should I stay or go ? We have tried marriage councel and she just says that they are all biased against her.
2006-08-07 12:13:14 · 19 answers · asked by Kcosn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she treats you and the children both poorly, I would get out. If the kids are treated bad, they would be better off away from that.
2006-08-07 12:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there more to this? is your wife depressed? has she always treated you badly or has it just started? Do you think the problem can be fixed?
divorce is an answer but not if you feel the relationship is worth fighting for. Every marriage has its ups and downs, its a matter of, if you can see a light at the end of the tunnel???
if you can see that the counseling isnt working and youve tried everything that you feel you can do to save it but its just a titanic marriage thats going to sink anyway, then maybe it is time to seperate, just keep the kids in the forefront of your mind with each decission, kids of divorce can go down hill very fast if they lack the attention and are kept in the dark.,,,good luck hun
2006-08-07 12:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by Aussieblonde -bundy'd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't believe a couple should stay together for the sake of their children if the parents can't get along. It just causes more problems for the kids in the long run, watching their parents fight constantly. Divorce is hard on kids, but at least that way they can still see both parents seperately without seeing them fight. Watching your parents at each other's throats, I belive, is worse for the kids than divorce. If you and your wife can't stand the sight of each other, get out of that relationship and explain to your kids how everyone is better off in this situation and tell them that both of you love your kids equally, but you and your wife don't love each other like you used to.
Good luck!
2006-08-07 12:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by i_hate_subway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HER!!!!!!!!!! i know it will be hard but yes definitly leave her regardless if you have kids...
my mom and dad had several issues going on when i was a kid and they stayed together for my brothers and i...and honestly we grew up realizing and recognizing the big effort they have been struggling with through out time..and its a bad feeling now im 24 my brothers are 22 and 20 and my mom tells us why she didnt divorce my dad and we cried with her and we wished she would have done this back then... when we were around 8 and under and we would of been happier knowing our parents were happy and not forced to be together and unhappy.
it will be for the best at the end honestly.. i learned a lot from my parents mistake! good luck
2006-08-07 12:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by CALI GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is treating the children badly I would say it's time to go and take the kids with you. Or at least try. You can get help while you are separated. Maybe that will give her the wake up call.
2006-08-07 12:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by Pig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and don't feel a moment's guilt. My mother was this way, its called narcissism. I have endured a lifetime of this emotional abuse and had many social issues and problems relating to people because of it while I was growing up. You need to get yourself and your children away from someone so destructive. I wish my dad and I had left a long long time before we did.
Find a good counselor for yourself. Remember, she's the emotional vampire, and its not your fault.
Good Luck.
2006-08-07 12:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by KiyaJay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does she treat you poorly? could it be that she is not happy with you or herself?
what do you mean by poorly? is she abusive physically? mentally?
id take the kids and head for a counselor and see what the counselor has to say.
kids arent as gullible as parents think they are sometimes. if you are staying in this marriage just for the kids, you arent doing them any favors.
2006-08-07 12:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not going to change then go. You are not helping your kids by showing them a bad relationship. They will grow up and follow the lead. If she is treating them badly. Keep a note book with note so you can use it in court and then you can have placement of them. Good luck
2006-08-07 12:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are ruining your children's lives if you stay !!!! monkey see monkey do and they wont even realize why they are doing what they are doing or why they are doing it ...everything you do counts and has an affect on those dear ones;.let your wife go and see if she can straighten her life out..maybe part of what is wrong with her has something to do with her childhood ...don't keep the children away from her but be cautious of behaviours that can have a profound affect on the children.leave and take the children with you.
2006-08-07 12:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by bloomsatnoon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay.
What manner of man is it that abandons his own children, just to make his own life more comfortable or convenient?
You stay and you devote your life to them for as long as it takes because they deserve nothing less. You put your own concerns aside, break away from this weak-minded, spineless culture of selfishness and crass irresponsibility and you honour your obligations to the babies you have brought in to this world. When they are grown up and free-wheeling, and you have fully discharged your duties as a father and a man, THEN you turn your attentions to your own life and your own needs.
2006-08-07 13:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋