i have known this girl since i was 3 (13 yrs) and this past year i have realized that i am truly in love wit her but dont know if i should tell her or even how to tell her we have been through soo much together and we are completley different idk how we are friends but i know she is the one for me i jsut dont know wat to do can use as much info on this as possible
2006-08-07 12:10:55 · 12 answers · asked by andrew m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It does not sound like a Corey and Topanga story...it does happen in reality, not just on tv. I completely understand what your talking about! My parents were best friends with this couple forever and me and there son are exactly the same age. My parents moved across country to live by them and from then on me and Adam had gotten really close...but again we were two totally different people. In school we hung out with completely different people, I was shy and he very outgoing and outspoken. I remember our parents used to say that when we got older we would get married, secretly I wanted that to happen. I dreamed about him and I thought I loved him and wanted to be with him. I even compared guys to him and none ever measured up in my books so I never dated anyone, I guess I was waiting for him. My parents died and I ended up getting moved hours away and slowly we lost contact. I visit every now and then and still wonder IF we could have had anything; but see he lost his father and best friend and I lost both of my parents-we are so alike yet I look at life positively and have stayed in school where he has given up and gets in a lot of trouble. Now that we are grown I see the kind of person he is and I am kinda glad I never dated him, he's psychologically imbalanced and goes through rage fits...not something I want to be around.
As for you I think you should go for it, in a way I always kicked myself for not trying (and he did too) but in that same way we are glad because we know we are better friends....
2006-08-07 12:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by blondieblue98 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess the first thing to consider is whether or not she is single. To tell her if she is attached could make things a bit difficult. Then you need to think about if she is happy and attached (assuming she is attached). If she is happy too then I think you need to think about what you want to tell her and if it is appropriate under the circumstances. If however she is single, then simply choose a good time to tell her how you feel. But, yes there are always But's!! But, be aware that you should not put her in a position of meeting your expectations, making her feel guilty etc (not that you would deliberately, but you do need to think a little). Just lay it out for her. Honestly and in a balanced way. Let her know, let her make her decision, dont let it ruin a good friendship if it doesnt go the way you want. All the best.
2006-08-07 19:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by twerf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was close friends with a guy growing up all the way through high school. He almost kissed me once when we were in high school, but he chickened out. He came to my wedding and he looked sad, that makes me sad sometimes, but he had the opportunity to get together with me before I met my husband, and he missed out. Don't let that be you, it doesn't matter how you do it, she probably likes you back, why else would she hang out with you so much? I kinda always liked him, sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if he had kissed me that day, but I try not to because I really love my husband and I truly am happy the way things worked out.
2006-08-07 19:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by chickpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahahaha, sounds like a Cory and Topanga story. Well, if you guys are reeeeeally friends, then I say you should tell her. Because I know that for me, at least, when guys don't tell me they like me when they do and I find out in the future, then I get really sdjalksjdlkasfja if I liked them then, too. So I say that you should tell her. And if she starts acting different & ignoring you, then I would say something like "If we went through all of this for ten years, then this moment shouldn't make things difficult" or something. Have her realize that she's losing something great in her life if she starts ignoring you.
2006-08-07 19:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by Arianne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are ways to let someone know you are interested without actually having to say something you wish you could take back later if it isnt mutual. Just start giving her compliments here and there, a little flirting maybe, but keep it light. See how she reacts.
2006-08-07 19:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by ironica7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats probably one of the sweetest things i have ever heard um... why don't u start by asking her out and maybe then u can get hints as to whether she loves u too and then tell her
2006-08-07 19:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by banana music mango 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should tell her if ii loved my bf then i would so tell him and wat i would say is ... hey wats up ? i have something to tell you u no how we've been friends since we were little. and i wanted to say that ihave grown to love you and if u felt the same way we should go out sometime
2006-08-07 19:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by Destiny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwwwww its sound like luv!tell her how u feel!
2006-08-07 19:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by netta8907 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... if you think you really love her which you do ....I think you should take a risk and ask her out ...you never know she could really love you too....i hoped this helped i tried ...well good luck
2006-08-07 19:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be confident! if you feel it ....trust your feelings!!...and go for it....you should be glad that you have this kind of opportunity.....good luck!!!
2006-08-07 19:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by CHieN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋