Men and porn?

Question

please answer me fellows, and be nice....
Because of my own insecurities porn has been a very sore subject for me. I find it painful that my husband enjoys it, and I feel very inadequate in comparison to the girls. Can you honestly answer these things...
1.)When men look at porn...are they comparing their woman and the porno star?
2.)When you are having sex with your lover, are you picturing the porno star?
3.)Is it truly just the raw sex that men are interested in with porn or is it the hot girl?
4.)Why, if your woman gives it up every day (and it is great), flirts with you constantly, and treats you well....do you have a need for porn?

Answer 1

1) Nope.
2) Nope.
3) Neither - It is the concept.
4) It's called "slummin' it".

Try to understand that porn isn't about you, or any other wife or lover. It isn't about what you do or don't do, or what you do well, or what you do badly. It's about porn, and men, and the unending fascination one has for the other. Nothing more, and nothing less. Contrary to what some men will try to tell you - you know, the somewhat pathetic over-compensators who also try to tell people they've laid millions of women and all the rest of the waffle - if some drop-dead gorgeous porn star stepped out of the TV screen or a page in a magazine and said to them "take me, I'm yours" they'd run a mile.

Answer 2

2

Answer 3

IF you saw how a porn movie was made, you would be dying laughing. These things are made in bits and pieces, they have to stop every minute or so to have a "fluffer" get the guy hard again, the orgasms of the women are entirely fake, and the only way the guys get off are by their own hands...all the editing that goes into them make them look like great sex...it is not, it isn't even sex..it is a job where they get paid by the *** shot. Typical pay is 500-1500 per *** shot. You would not feel envious any longer, I can guarantee you that, and in fact, you would start laughing everytime you saw one of these things. The women are pumped so full of silicone, they look ridiculous, the men use pumps, etc to keep it up. These movies are as fake as any other movie. Relax, let him get horny with his visuals, and hop in bed...big deal. And, my dear, your idea of a "star" is someone who makes one or two movies...after that, they are used goods and no one wants them in the next movie...very short career.

Answer 4

Sure men love to look at porn, just as we do sports etc.
But no, we don't compare those girls to our wives, sweethearts.
It just fun for us to watch them, and we find it erotic.
Nothing can compare to a wife or girlfriend that gives us all we need sexually.
Those other women in porn, are just fantasies, and we wouldn't marry them for all the tea in China.
You are insecure and you don't need to be. But I'd ask your husband to cut back on it, if it bothers you that much.

Answer 5

Men are visual beings. My husband has his "fetish" porn. He like black women with white men. Its a fantasy he has. I dont believe he would ever act but he can dream. I know he does not compare me to anywoman he compares other women to me. He says if they cant beat the house the cant come home. To answer your 2nd ? Do you ever fantasize? I dont think men really want what they see in movies but I think they enjoy watching Its a turn on all on its own. I hope this helps.

Answer 6

You have fallen into the old trap of associating a man's use of porn with his relationship with his spouse. This is not the way it is, he is not comparing you to the models, he is just enjoying the visual stimulation. You have no need to feel threatened in any way.

Answer 7

1. No.
2. No
3. Raw sex
4. You give it up everyday, watching porn releases endorphins which in turn produces more testosterone,(thats why it is great everytime)

Answer 8

1- no
2-no
3-raw
4look, we like to jack off, thats it, and porn is a good outlet, as long as one donst overendulge in it, it can be healthy

Answer 9

1)well when men watch porn they dont realy pay attention to the girls as much as what there doing..........................................
2)when im haveing sex whith my lover i dont realy picture her as a porn star because when i watch porn i just try to find new moves......................................................................................
3)there just intrested in watching the sex................................
4)he wouldnt need to watch it