I have voiced my displeasures about my husband and his porn interests...he has listened to my feelings, and has adjusted some of the things he views...i give him full credit for that. But now, If we are watching a regular movie where there might be nudity, he (and myself) become very uncomfortable....you could hear a pin drop. I never wanted it to be like that... porn is my own insecurities, he understands that. I would like nothing more than to be able to join him while watching a porno some day...if i can talk myself into it.... but now, with this awkwardness I don't know if we will ever be able to.
2006-08-07 11:59:22 · 7 answers · asked by shasta 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think a good husband respects a wife with high moral standards. If a movie has some serious sex and nudity and you feel uncomfortable, its because you're thinking, "I really shouldn't be watching this".
Don't think that there's something wrong with you. Don't call it "insecurities", it is the moral standards you were raised to uphold.
However, as a compromise you may consider prono as a means of sexual foreplay... It could be used to get your and your husband's sexual juices running and lead to some of your own intimacy. In such case, you have to both know in advance the reason for the steamy video.
2006-08-07 12:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking and keep talking. I dont know why porn has the effect on you and perhaps saying to your husband.." I have given it some thought and would like to try watching some porn with you and see what happens" Explain you dont want him to feel strange around you during movies that contain nudity or sex.
2006-08-07 19:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he is out rent yourself a porno or buy one make sure it has girls and guys. sit down and watch it all the way and see how you feel after. if you are uncomfortable with it by yourself i think you need to watch more not because of him but to be comfortable with sex in general. hey you might learn something.
I used to be real self concious about porn watching with my bf but i found my self getting horny and ended up leading to great sex. I mean its only a movie, its not like he or you will ever get to meet these people in real life , they might as well be cartoons
2006-08-07 19:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by dido45dido 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is really simple,actually.BECOME HIS PORN!!A man wants to marry a woman,that is a lady everywhere,but the bedroom!!!Keep him so busy with you,he won't want to see any porn!!!Unleash all the fantasies that you ever thought of,upon him.I know that would work for me,if I were in in his shoes.Don't lose the magic that brought both of you together.NOW,GO GET SOME ON YA!!!!
2006-08-07 19:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by stillfast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't accept his porn watching as normal and beat yourself up for not participating in it. He has a wife and shouldn't be looking at porn. Most women I know don't put up with it, never mind WATCH it with their husbands. Stop trying to be the perfect wife. He should try to be more mindful of YOUR feelings.
2006-08-07 19:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing much you can do. It is the price to pay for it. Just bear with it.
2006-08-08 06:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to learn to be open minded about your sex life and with your partner as long as you arent willing to explore with him//he will go exploring on his own and hopefully he doesnt do it with another woman good luck
2006-08-07 19:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋