I'm 3 months pregnant and I just broke up with my boyfriend. The problem is that we don't get along and we argue alot. We were broken up and I was going to move out of state when I found out I was pregnant. I know the timing couldn't be worse but we don't agree on anything, the love for me is gone and I don't see any relationship anymore. Now the other problem is that I still plan on moving out of state and my ex is obviously not happy with that, and I don't blame him. I'm willing to wait until the baby is at least a year old for his sake because if I had my way I'd leave shortly after the baby is born but I know the whole situaton is just not fair to him or the child. I feel really bad but I've got my mind made up to leave, what would you do in a situation like this??? Would you leave, would you stay or how long would you wait to leave?????
2006-08-07 11:57:48 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He he you know i am 7 months pregnant and is still cant cope with what you are saying because after the baby is born, which is in 3 months we are getting married!!!! He he lol ha ha ha he ho he. (clears throat) Sorry hormone problems! But who is too blame i am sitting on the computer right now eating ice cream while my fiance is in our workout room. i am sooo fat. baby hurry up and get out of me so i can work out. O sorry i just had to have one of those me moments again. He he awwww(crying*)!
2006-08-07 12:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If the relationship is truly over with...why wait to move?
To stay another year just for the sake of your ex hardly seems worth the aggravation. Think of all that you'll have to deal with through 9 long months of pregnancy which are bound to be a lot more more stressful than joyful given your present relationsip with him. in light of the fact that you two do not get along, and it's probably going to get a lot worse once the baby arrives...I would consider leaving as as you are able, why prolong the pain any further?
If he is truly interested in being a part of his child's life, it shouldn't matter if you move
out-of-state.
GOOD LUCK~*
2006-08-07 19:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by DG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd consult a lawyer. If you still are planning on moving, it may be better to do it now before the baby is born. You may be forced to stay where you are.
You have some serious decisions to make since now the move doesn't just affect you but the baby's father as well. Other than you're own sense of fairness you still need legal counsel.
2006-08-07 19:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With everything in you, you and the man need to resolve your differences, what ever it takes. You and that man need to provide the best home possible to that child, so that one of these days, he or she can also have the freedom of choice. Do not be selfish, let that baby have his Mother and Father. Of course this is if there is anyway possible. I believe their is a way. Woooooooooork it out. Love, can do wonders. And i know some people are impossible, if this is the case then just leave. You hold soooooooo much power, life and death in this relationship, therefore you also, should have to be held more accountable for pleasing the child's father, so all may have each others, love. Please contact me if you want to talk. Best to all.
2006-08-07 19:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by who k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE NOW!!!
I was in a similiar situation when I got pregnant and my boyfriend said the child was not his, which was so ridiculous.
Listen to me...right now...he is powerless. Move now! Once the child is born, the BIRTH RESIDENCE becomes part of all the legal tango from here on. He will have to pay child support regardless of where you live, but if you live close to him when you give birth, then legally, it's done. You will have to fight and likely lose to be able to move and he will get a lot more visitation since he's close....which is going to scare the heck out of you when that baby gets here. If you're a first time mom...you'll get to understand the momma grizzly bear syndrome and you will not want anyone taking care of that baby at first but you...especially not him. GO NOW! And Good luck!!
2006-08-07 19:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go ahead and leave. The reason I say this is you shouldn't allow him to hold you back. He can still see the child if he comes to the state that you are moving to or if you happen to visit the state that you are moving from. It doesn't really matter if you wait any longer but I think the sooner you move the better situated you will get for your child in the new state. He should support you in this decision. As long as you are allowing him to still see his child.
PS He more than likely wants you to wait because he is hoping that you will eventually change your mind but if you are not going to change your mind than you should go ahead and move
2006-08-07 19:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by thugangel19842002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you need to think about yourself and your baby. Growing up with one parent that is loving and nurturing is better than two parents that argue in front of the child.. I'd leave your ex and find a place to be comfortable and to be near family or friends that will provide a positive and loving environment for your baby and for yourself. Let the legal stuff be left alone. Focus on your child.
2006-08-07 19:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Erin E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now you can't think of yourself anymore your needs come second. The child inside of you now is number one and taking him away from his father just because you want to leave isn't fair to the child or the father. Also you have to think about you will be raising a baby alone then with no support and no one to lean on. Family yes but they only can do so much.
I can not tell you what to do. Or what is right just give you some things to think about. Good luck and
Congradulation.
2006-08-07 19:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, will he pay for child support? Or, will you have to hunt him down and have the County demand payment for his child? Why can't you stay and allow your child to know the other parent? We sometimes use children as a chess-piece and I hope you are not thinking in this area. Search your feelings for both the child and the male parent, then search yourself. Is there a financial plan in line for your unborn child? You will know after the birth when the time is right for you to leave. Whatever you do, remember,, the child is the most important factor in your life... you are secondary. Now your child will need a father image and you will need to support both you and your child. Don't get the bighead and think you can do it all by yourself... unless you have rich parents.
2006-08-07 19:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by Ms-No-It-All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you argue that is bad for the baby. it will feel your stress. how you are in your preg will help determine the BBS temperament. IE if your happy the BB will be too. i have had 3 and it worked.
do give it a bad situation as its first breath.
you are a single mom now think whats best for BB. and remember the DA's office will help you get child support from the father you don't even have to be in the same state. or be on welfare.
get prenatal care asap were ever you live and take care of your self!! god bless
2006-08-07 19:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by dydrmrr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i am glad that to hear that you guys are not trying to make it work for the baby that only makes things worse. Sencondly alot of things could change within the next 6mo and then the year after your baby is born. You never know what is going to happen. You may not want to sepperate your child from his/her father, and then you may still feel the same way. My suggestion to you is to wait and see what the next year and half has in store for you before you make your decision.
2006-08-07 19:04:45 · answer #11 · answered by tiggerluvnmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋