If my boyfriend isn't cheating why do he have condons?

Question

he has condons along with money and an old cell phone with girls numbers in it hid in a old coat in back of the closets. Is this dude really who he say he is? Do me and my kids to to leave and find us a place of our own. Let me remind you that i'm almost 8 months pregnant! Please give good advise

Answer 1

It's called "wishful thinking!" LOL.

Every boy does it. No kidding. They think they have done something naughty and got away with it.

Ignore it.

Answer 2

no cupcake, dont ignore it and everything means something whether or not its the blatant reason we would assume. What does he need these things for? Obviously, its a "player's pack". The question is.. how old is it... if you're 8mths pregnant than the jacket has to be within that period. If he was like that in 8mths, then most likely he met you on the same terms. He is a player and you should of waited to explore more of his mentality. That doesnt mean your stuck, just acted spontaneous. You must tap his thoughts of the relationships direction. Come to a common ground on the expect role of a man and woman after the baby is born. This way you know what to expect of him and could work on things that are detrimental to the relationship. You could leave him but personally i believe in trying since a baby is involved. To become a leader in commanding how great your relationship turns out... you must first... have great patiece during times of distress to recieve a deeper understanding and rid all games of manipulation. Then you get empathy for the other person and find a way to communicate better, finding words that they will understand to deliver your point on why your right. Lastly, by eliminating negative things and overloading positive it will help establish your credibility and worth to your partner. Be open minded and a great friend and then everyone else will regret even f-ckin with you. Take care and good luck.

Answer 3

Check to see if the coat is dusty. If so, it's prob just an old coat with an outdated cell phone (people get new ones all the time because of promotions etc., and just toss the old one). That explains the phone numbers.

If so, then the condoms are just something guys always have just in case. He may have had them in anticipation of using them with you.

If the coat is not dusty and it's obvious that it's part of his current collection, then yeah, start wondering. An easy way to find out - take the cell phone with the suspicious numbers and go to the call log to see when the last call was placed from that phone.

Answer 4

Umm!! This is serious. Its sad but I think he maybe be cheating on you my dear. The cell phone numbers and condoms are the biggest indication. Why walk with condoms.......You dont have to use condoms when your partner is 8 mths pregnant. Umm! I know this is hard for u at this point in time. What i advise however is .......Wait until you have delivered and deal with this problem. Dont move now.Endure a bit more until u are well and strong enough to make a good decision. Be wise. He can give u a sexual transmitted infection. No more sex with him for u . Make excuses.Tell him u dont feel like because of the pregnancy.

Answer 5

You need to go with what you feel inside your heart! Seriously open up your eyes, and take a good look at the past and present. Are these old things that he forgot he even had? Or is he guilty? You know him better then anyone. Have you caught him in lies before? Or is this a total shocker? Also if there are close friends of both his and yours telling you to leave, then there is clear sign. Also let me state something, if he had old condoms that he chose to keep around. This could be for masturbation. Most men use them, it's less messy. Good luck...

Answer 6

Big thing here, if he is cheating, let him cheat. After the baby is born though, i would start getting your life on track. A part time job and all that. There isnt really any reason for him to have those condoms, i mean if you are pregnant.

So the chances of him cheating are pretty higher then most, but your 8 months pregnant and should only be relaxing.

Unless..you have another place you can go, then i would go. Safe place. : ]

Answer 7

wow cupcake. First congrats on the baby. Now....I don't think your man is cheating. But he could be. Remember that pregnancy is a hard, emotional time for the both of you. Some guys can't stand to get physical when there girl is "with child", it might gross him out. Personally I love it. My girl was never hotter and sex was never better(till like 7th mo. understadibly) It's a wierd pheremone thing I've been told. So...back to you...he might be fantizising, or flirting or something like that. Even if he is cheating (aka sex) then you have some hard choices to make. But remember that right now both of you quite possibly could be emotional basket cases. It might just be a very, very old jacket. I that case hire someone to clean ur place out. You will have more space for the baby. You never know...

Answer 8

I hope you don't live in a trailer too. Joking...

I'm not sleeping with my girlfriend but I have condoms, just in case. Guys always like to usually have some. I have tons of girls numbers in my cell and im not cheating - and maybe he wanted to keep the jacket as a reminder of an old love? As long as its not a newly-left jacket, you should be ok.

Answer 9

Count the # of condoms in that box on a daily basis. If some start to get missing then get a PI.

Get him to follow your boyfriend, and see what's going on.

Switch cell phones for a day "by mistake". See who's calling.

If you are pregnant with his child you will be getting child support for 18 years.

If you can somehow get a blood sample from him take it for a paternity test to speed up the legal process if worse comes to worse.

No "dude" is really who he says he is until you prove it to yourself sweetie.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Maybe it was just stuff that got left in the pockets (by money I assume you mean a few dollars at most). If is is a significant amount money or if the condoms or money change in amounts then he is cheating. You will then have to decide if that is something you want to live with. Even if it is just until you get on your feet. Only you know how important fidelity is to you and if you can stand to put up with it even temporarily.

Answer 11

You said its in an old coat. Maybe it was forgotten in there. If the condoms are new, and so is the money, and the phone is still activated then yes you need to leave. How long have you known him? 8mos?