is like they dont care about their life but i care for them even though we are not goin out anymore and he knos that but the prblm is that he stays gettin him self in trblm always gettin locked up, doin drugs, etc how can i help him because i feel is like my duty to help him
2006-08-07 11:41:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unfortunately you cant. Most people know they need help deep down, but the "surface" person doesnt want to admit it. Some people will never accept help they have to pay the price life charges before they wake up. It's really sad however it not your fault or duty for anything. Examine why you feel it is your duty? be careful that you dont get mixed up in the same things trying to help him. Of course as a friend you may feel you need to help but after being turned down multiple times he may not be ready for the help. Reassure him when he is ready you will still be there that's pretty important that he knows, because it will probably be a rough exit of the bad things he's doing.
2006-08-07 11:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell him that you'll always be there for him. Just let him know that you care about him and his life, and just remind him that if he ever wants someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on, that you'll do everything in your power to help him. Once you say that let it go. This way your friend knows you're willing to help him. But don't bring it on yourself to get this person help. When he is ready for help, he will come to you.
2006-08-07 19:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Elphaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's not possible to help people change if they don't want to change. The most you can do is let that person know that you care about him & his future, that you think he's a worthwhile person who deserves a better life, & that you're willing to help if he asks for it.
2006-08-07 18:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by Genvieve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep inside I bet he feels like he can't be helped that this is what was meant to be. Teach him he's wrong. That theres more to life then what hes doing. Take him places. Have fun with him.
2006-08-07 18:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by cedez92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, nothing. You cant make someone clean up their life or make better decisions.
2006-08-07 18:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by ironica7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be there for them when they want help. Impossible to help someone who doesn't want help or realize they need it.
2006-08-07 18:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing you can do. isee it like this.. i only try to help people that want to be helped or people that wants help and is really trying
2006-08-07 19:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by libby71763 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for them,and ask GOD to help them.
2006-08-07 19:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is pray for him..
2006-08-07 20:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by bethannebourland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋