we've been going out for 4 years and one day i pissed him off really bad and he beat me up and choked me until i couldnt breathe. but we all make mistakes right? we broke up a year ago and he's out of jail now and he called me on a three way and told me that he loves me and realizes his mistakes and he wants me back and he apologized. everyone deserves second chances right? i thought i was over him, i hated him but when i heard his voice the feelings all came back. and now i'm confused. am i over him or am i in love? i need some advice, should i go back with him and give him a second chance?
2006-08-07 11:32:28 · 17 answers · asked by angelz_sent 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, please move, change your number, whatever it takes. I know you want to give him a second chance, but once he hit you more than once, that WAS his second chance. He could kill you. Has the court ordered him to stay away from you? Please don't go back to him. So many woman have and it has turned out tragic. Please talk to your friends and let them know he has contacted you. You need support. You need to worry about your safety.
2006-08-07 11:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! You are taking responsibility for everyone else's lives here except your own. You can't do that or it will tear you apart. Your ex boyfriend is blackmailing you to make himself feel good and get what he wants. This is no basis for a loving relationship and ultimately won't make him happy or you. You need to tell everyone the truth and tell them that you won't play games any more. You love them both, but your ex needs to find someone else, and you need to focus on the boyfriend that actually really appreciates you. Most people who make such threats have no intention of actually hurting themselves, they are just using it to manipulate people around them - and in your case it's working a treat, huh? So you need to stop this now before you all get hurt. You do NOT have a responsibility to your ex for what he does, whatever he says. Tell him you will not be treated like this any more and he must do what he must do. He won't kill himself, I promise you, but he may decide you're not worth pursuing any more and find someone else to have a twisted relationship with. He is manipulating you by not letting you see or tell the truth, so tell the truth and damn the consequences, it's the only way for you all.
2016-03-27 02:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldnt go back with someone that beat the crap out of you and almost killed you. You need to leave him alone and tell him to leave you alone and to stop calling you. and if he loved you believe me he would not have hit you the way he did. He was hitting you with hate and someone that bits on a woman are not worth a second chance. Why would you want to give him a second chance? a second chance for he can really kill you. wake up and realize he is not good for you and plus you dont love him the only thing you are feeling at this moment is that you are happy he is out but you really dont LOVE him and he dont love you. get away from him or you will end up dead. sorry to say but so true. he will hit you again if you get back with him and please dont give him a second chance ok. but hey its your life and I hope you think before you act on what you are willing to do. Good Luck
2006-08-07 12:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by precious_vanessa_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, nothing you could have possibly done should have "pissed him off" bad enough for him to do what he did. He may truly be sorry for what he did and you may still love him, but just realize that if you do go back to him you will probably make him angry again (unintentionally). If you choose to go back to him, the next time he gets angry could very well be the time that he kills you, whether he means to or not. Also, think ahead- if you ever have kids with him, could you stand it if he hurt one of the kids? If he gets "pissed off really bad" at your baby because he or she won't stop crying? If he hits and chokes the baby? Please think about your own safety. Maybe talk to a counselor to help you work out your feelings.
2006-08-07 11:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?! NO! do urself a favour and get as far away from this dude as u can. trust me, the best way to tel how a guy would act in the future is his past behaviour
While this aint true in all situations and all guys but just the fact that he put hands on u shouldv been enough for u NOT 2 even think twice about him.
Theres no excuse 4 that ****.
Let him go. Move on.
2006-08-07 11:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by dp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ..how are you?...i hope your ok now...sometimes people make mistakes....and in relationships people can get mad at their significant other...i remember at times my sisters and i would physically fight...but we still love each other...so of cours you both are still in love...you need to forgive him but not forget..i know that III would alwayz think in the back of my mind"if i get him mad hell kill me"...my suggestion to you would be to seek counseling together and for you to learn defense(whether or not you decide to stay with him).....also if you dont try again you will probably always wonder "what if he really did change"..Have yp ever seen the Real world episode with the anorexic grl who was beaten by her boyfriend but took him back? She is a wreck now and has a lot of issues. Maybe the best choice for you is to find someone else but you will only realize that once you learn for yourself...If you do however decide that you do nnot want him in your life you should file a restraining order because seeing him may make you run back to him....make your own decisions and dont listen to people who say "no 4get him" because they are beinguncaring to your feelings...do what you need to do to feel happy and put this behind you...Be safe and God Bless!
2006-08-07 11:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Honey he alsmost killed you.Do you really want to be with a guy that from one moment to another can be mad enough to choke you.You would never know what you can say.Because you be afraid it could piss him off.And the next time you might not be so lucky.He might kill you.I dont call this love.Go to one of those abuse center's they could help you to deal with this.Ask a Teacher,Parent or Counsler.Dont go back is easy to say Iam sorry.But he proofed to you what Anger he has inside of him.He wants to have total Control,what he says goes and nothing else.You can do better that this.This is not Love.
2006-08-07 11:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by rhoda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUUUUUNNNNN--Do not walk away from this guy. You need some counseling so that you can see that IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT that he beat you up. No matter what you said or did, he CHOSE to beat you. I agree with the previous answer -- the second hit (or the choking) WAS his second chance. The next time, he WILL kill you!
2006-08-07 11:43:51 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you insane? You're certainly not in love. Of course he apologized. Sheez.... you need to take a serious look at how abusive people operate. You're being played. What you're feeling, that you mistake as love, is the boost to your self esteem you get when he says he still desires you.
Don't be a fool. Run.
2006-08-07 11:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that low of yourself and you think you need that guy in your life then get back with him. But if you have the least amount of respect for yourself then you know the right answer, forget him. Nobody should ever be treated like that, unless you like it when he hits you. I know you still have feelings toward him, but how can you love somebody if you're dead. And that's what's gonna happen he's gonna end up killing you.
2006-08-07 11:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋