Are there anymore of you out there who dont think sex is the be all & end all of a relationship & really only enjoy sex a few times a month?
2006-08-07 11:22:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks to you guys i'm happy with that much sex unfortunately my husband's got a high sex drive & like most men takes it all rather personally when i dont want sex. We've talked but he just doesnt seem to get it.Any suggestions?
2006-08-07 12:07:18 · update #1
I agree. There is more to a relationship then sex.
My husband also has a high sex drive. And I to found my self asking the same question.
What I have learned is men think they have to have it or they feel insecure. Like they aren't worth anything or good enough. Even though this isn't true.
Men are more physical then women and women are more emotional.
What I did to help my marriage was to tell my husband the truth about how I really felt when he ignored my emotional needs. And he didn't understand at first. But I kept on telling him until it sunk in his head.
What I told him was if you cater to some of my needs then I will feel more like catering to yours.
And sure enough when he started catering to those needs I fount myself feeling more aroused and wanting more.
It may just be that he isn't catering to your needs. Try to get him to understand how you feel. Tell him everyday till it sinks in. And be sure to tell him that maybe if you do this for me I'll be in more of a mood for sex..
Plus, after awhile we all get in this routine. And sex suddenly becomes boring. Try something new! Spice it up a notch.Try a different routine and you may find yourself wanting more.
Maybe between your needs not being met and the same old same old is why you find your self wanting it less and less.
I hope that this helps you out some. Good luck
2006-08-07 13:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by rockn75 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It isn't everything a relationship is about, but a relationship lacking sex, in a guy's mind is not the "be all & and all" relationship for the guy. You need to have a good balance, you only want it once maybe twice a month and your hubby probably wants it at least 3 times a week. Welcome to the differences of male vs female. You two need to find a compramise, and it isn't just the amount of times you have sex, it is the sex and the way you have sex...He might be looking for some adventure in the bedroom, so if you got it down to once a week, but you played out eachother's fantasies, you might both find a happy medium. That is my two cents. I know of couples in this particular possition, and what has happened almost every time is, if the guy isn't getting it at home, he soon finds another outlet, or a few. I would suggest before this goes too far, couples counseling, because even though sex is a intimate thing between two people, it soon become the pry-bar between two people, it is important, obviously, or you wouldn't be asking the queestion.
2006-08-07 12:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by asmul8ed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 35 and have been married for 14 years and we have sex once per week and I am great with that...however there are times when we go 10-14 days depending on what is going on with my time of the month...or him being tired, and I am fine with that also. So, in answer to your question, I think that enjoying sex a few times a month is absolutely normal. If you are worried about it, I would try to lay it to rest because if there is one thing I have learned from being married as well as from reading some of the questions and answers on here..it is all normal. It's only a problem if you and/or your husband or boyfriend has a problem with it. Good luck to you...you are normal hon!
2006-08-07 11:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sex is not everything in a marriage, but it is the most intimate way to show your love to your husband. And a great stress reliever. To a lot of men that is the best way for them to show their wives that they love them. You need to find other things to spice up your sex life. Go to an adult store together, there is nothing wrong with that. If my hubby was home all the time, it would be a least every other night.
2006-08-07 12:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally enjoy sex with my hubby of 19 years, but no, I don't think it is the most important thing in our life. I can do without it quite well except for a couple of time a month.
Instead, I love spending time with him ... talking, watching movies, working out, cooking, shopping, etc. The sex/lovemaking is when we are connected soul to soul, but it wouldn't be like that for me without all the other stuff, too.
But, I also treat hubby to little "extras" when I'm not in the mood. He enjoys it, and I still feel the soul connection.
Of course, there are times when I don't feel like giving the extras either, so I'll just rub his back instead.
Touch is important, and it doesn't always have to be sexual.
2006-08-07 11:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by frankiquilts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women over 30 can be satisfied with having sex once a month.
2006-08-07 11:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 38 years old and me and my husband do it at least 5-6 times a week.
2006-08-07 15:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by 38C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, sex is very important. and i need sex at least 3 times a week. Coz that will make my relationship strong and more love.
2006-08-07 11:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm over 30...I agree that a marriage shouldn't be based on sex...but my husband and I have it about twice a week, sometimes more.....but to each his own!
2006-08-07 11:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use to but there was a reason - I was 12 pounds heavier than what I am now and really depressed about living in the country.
2006-08-07 12:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋