He don't say anything sexual about them. But every time I say something bad about them he wants to know why I don't like them. He says that he still loves me and would never cheat on me or leave me. But I don't know if I believe him. Do you think I have anything to be worried about?
2006-08-07 11:19:21 · 24 answers · asked by goldenrose3497 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He says the reason we haven't had sex is because he is tired when he gets home from work.
2006-08-07 11:31:02 · update #1
I'm 26, he is 29, and we have 2 kids.
2006-08-07 12:00:08 · update #2
If you do loose him then simply remember that the relationship was not a failure it was an experience - good or bad. Some times we just do not fit together the way we first thought.
Be very careful, bad advice and suspicion can loose you your husband and your reason. Do not go through his belongings nor his phone messages, that's despicable - imagine how you would feel if he did that to you, or if he caught you doing it.
If he says that he still loves you then why doubt him, unless there are other signs? It is not unusual for men and women to go off sex at times. There are many, many reasons for this so go to a proper medical site to see if his problem may be genuine.
Do not let jealousy get a grip of you - why are you saying bad things about the girls? Would you say the same if they were male colleagues?
Trust is paramount in any relationship, without it you havn't a chance. Beware woman who say never trust a man! For every man that is cheating, there is a woman doing the same - that's a fact!
Talk to him again, but this time talk more frankly about your concerns. Keep it calm, and listen to him, don't read between the lines.
Best wishes
2006-08-07 11:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dragon Master 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should worry. He is obviously distracted. You are afraid of being replaced. Don't get mad at the girls. they know he's married and get off on distracting his attention away from you.
Ask him what about them is so intriguing. If he has a hard time telling you it's probably because there's nothing that special. It's the fact that they are paying attention to him more than you are.
Making guys feel important, saught after, desirable, manly, sexy, impressive, engaging, and validated are what they need, but never ask for. They lack the emotional intelligence to tell you about it, as if discussing needs with you is a weakness or something.
Newsflash: All men crave this from women. It should be you who does it best. If he doesn't feel it from you, he will get it elsewhere. and if you criticize or make demands, he'll feel like a loser, and he will get validation elsewhere. Keep his ego pumped.
Guys cheat if they feel like disappointments at home, and they go and reinvent themselves to other women "this gal doesn't know about my shortcomings..."
Let him know how much you miss his attention and affection. Tell him you know he is distracted, and you wish he would turn to you and make you #1 again.
Remind him that you picked him for a reason, above all other guys out there. It would help to list 10 things you love and appreciate about him.
If he doesn't turn his attention back to you, then you need to leave him and make yourself happy.
Life is too short to stay miserable. The best revenge is to live well.
2006-08-07 18:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is turning you away with sex then look at that as a red flag along with talking about the 2 girls as another red flag.
Why would he even tell you he would never cheat on you? Another red flag. Trust your instincts but dont accuse him of something he didnt do or make him think you think he did it or he will just go ahead with your worse fears. Good Luck and keep your feelings open and look at your marraige and see what you both need to work on so it doesnt drift to that. Stop talking bad about them 2 girls too, that shows him you are insecure. All the best to you--
2006-08-07 18:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by yeppers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should worry a little. maybe 2 weeks can be little time to worry, but never know!!! You will know better than us how he is sexually talking is this the first time that happends??? Or he is always being looking for you to be with him ??? Then you wil be able to solve this, but if this is the first time, then try to seduce him in bed & it will depend on his reactions, if he avoids you after several time, then you should worry and ask him for an explanation on why he doesn't want to be with you ???? Told him how you feel about not being with him..... But first try to make him be with you & then have a talk comunication is the key !!! GOOD LUCK & best wishes !!! OH about this girls be honest with him & express that you don't like the way he talks about them all time!!!!
2006-08-07 18:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep a close watch on that one. He shouldn't be talking about other woman all the time - that's disrespectful. As far as the sex...well, we were in a bit of a slump for awhile too. Then I decided to fix that so I began sending him text mesages like "Sex tonight!". That way he'll think about you all day and be ready for love when he gets home.
2006-08-07 18:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two weeks is not a lot of time to get worried about. But two weeks, and he comes home tired from work, and he talks about these two girls a lot. . .now that's a little worrisome, I'd say. Could he be tired because he's banging them?
2006-08-07 18:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, first of all talk to your man, confront him, ask him why has it been so long since you all have had sex. You know your man look for signs, things out of the ordinary. Go through is cell phone, his wallet, his emails. If you think somethings goin' on it probably is. I don't think my husband has cheated on me, but there is always a possibility. I don't trust men in that area
2006-08-07 18:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by t4king 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can answer this question but yourself. People can only have an opinion based on your short description. Is he running up credit cards with restaurant charges, gifts? Is he "working" late? Is he available at all times when you call him on his cell phone? There are a lot of factors. Absence of sex, is a big one, but there has to be other factors, such as those above.
2006-08-07 19:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was the same way and years later I found out he was cheating on me with practically everyone he worked with all the time. Be suspicious. Is he with you alot or not? Take alot of phone calls alone or not? It sounds like he likes them to me or could be fooling around sad to say. Why else would he talk about them alot.
2006-08-07 18:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by Littlefoot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he worked oround women before? If not it might be the stress of having to watch everything he says and does because they are around and he is uncomfortable in what was his safety zone. Maybe they are young and beautiful and he is having confusing thoughts, or maybe they are so incompitent that they are making his job harder. Too many possibilities. The truth will reveal itself, keep your eyes and ears open.
2006-08-07 18:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋