Virgin going to college... Do all college guys want sex...not waiting for marriage just waiting 4 right guy?

Question

I mean I have good tolerince I made it this far and i'm the only virg out of all my friends who are all sluts.

I heard all college guys want sex... think there are some who will wait around till i am will to give it to the right boy?

I don't want the typical it's your choice, sex can wait, if they won't wait they arn't worth it, blah blah blah u won't get the 10 points

I want to know if most the boys u know in college are just after sex.

Answer 1

A lot of guys are, sure. Especially freshman boys who think their new college buddies are a lot more experienced than they are, and want to feel like they're keeping up (so to speak).

So how do you find the guy that's different? Start by not hooking up with guys in your dorm (if you live in a coed dorm). It's not that all of those guys are jerks; it's just too convenient. You'd be getting together because of proximity, and the beds are close by...

Instead, get to know people with a common interest. You're simply more likely to have better luck if you're forging a relationship with a guy that understands what you're all about. It's not that you want find shallow sex fiends there too, but it's less likely you'll be taken advantage of because your other similar-interest friends would probably intervene.

Make your position clear -- that you're not interested in casual sex -- and the horndogs will leave you alone. As long as you have a sense of humor and are social, you'll be fine.

Answer 2

It's all a matter of who you are, how you assert yourself, and where you go to.

Without referring to stereotypes, there are indeed some men who think college is nothing without having sex. These are the kinds of people who tend to disregard classes in favor of going to a three-day party. So if you're a party girl, then the chances of you being hounded after for sex will increase at college, period.

However, depending on where you go, the number of men like this may increase or decrease (personally, I'd stay away from Washington & Lee University, it being the no. 2 liquor college in the United States). For example, if you were going to go to a religious institution or a college that asserts its high academic and moral standards (none of which are in the Ivy League, mind you), then the men you'll encounter will be MUCH more likely to be of character and not want to be in a relationship for sex.

There is no solid and definitive answer for you. The stereotype says "yes", but it's just that--a stereotype, based on a small number of the whole population with little backing behind it. The best advice there is for you, in terms of whether or not you want to be chased after for sex, is to assert yourself that you DON'T want to have a sex-based relationship and live a lifestyle that will back that up--avoid the liquor parties, especially where drug use is involved. Ultimately, where you go and how you act depends on whether or not "all" college boys at your school are after sex.

( I am a college man attending Southern Virginia University, by the way. :) )

Answer 3

I don't know about everyone, because I have seen some pretty slutty class mates of mine all male at the time that would do nothing but drink and bone, but I myself waited until I was 19 (Almost four years ago) , and now we made the decision to get married next year...
Like I said, not everyone is the same... Might be far and few in between and may take awhile to find him if you are hunting, but there IS someone of the male gender who is waiting too.

Answer 4

It's not what I encountered, but I didn't hang with the typical frat/sor crowd. I was active in campus Christian groups & stuff. I kissed 11 guys before my husband. 6 were content to just kiss and very gentlemanly. 3 wanted more than kissing, but didn't pressure. 2 had to be fought off with a stick.

You will be pressured. I'd like to opine that you should wait until marriage, but that is of course me opining.

Answer 5

I am gonna tell you from my side. When I went to school I did not expect to get much. I just expected a girlfriend quickly but nothing like intercourse right away. It took me about 2 days at my school before a virgin gave it up to me. You need to have full control at all times and not allow for anyone to compromise you. It is not worth it. Keep your virginity for the man you love.

Answer 6

Whatever you've been doing thus far to keep from having sex (oral, anal, vaginal...wutever) is obviously working. If you want to find a MAN who is not just going to "dive" into your pants--your best bet is to look for a staunch Christian Protestant who believes in saving sex for marriage, best way to go. If you are looking for sex, believe me--in college it won't be hard to find. Finding the man willing wait is the "treasure hunt!"

Godly men can wait. Just remember, sex isn't just you giving something--he's giving something, too.

Answer 7

Unless you have a very religious background, or an uncommon philosophy, everyone not-virgin in the 16-50 age gap is looking for sex.
Some may not have it as a priority, some may think love comes first, some may be scared of doing it, some may give false excuses to themselves or to others, but the truth is that every young, hormonally-healthy adult wants sex. girls too.

Answer 8

It isn't just college guys -- all guys want sex.

But that doesn't mean that they ONLY want sex.

Don't do anything until you are ready. If it makes you more comfortable, get to know a guy before you do anything. If he isn't willing to wait for you -- he isn't worth it.

Answer 9

Lets see....they are young men, away from their families, with new girls who don't know their past, and no one knows what they're doing for sure....
You already know the answer, girlfriend. If they have a penis, they want sex.
Congrats on lasting this long though...good luck!

Answer 10

Do all girls want to get married?