For those of you who are divorced, why did you get divorced?

Answer 1

I was between jobs for 3 months. Making a career change from $40,000 to $90,000. She says it was because I was unemployed.

Answer 2

I got divorced for multiple reasons. Had she changed any of them, or even made the attempt, we'd still be married.
1. Even though I was an attorney and making very good money, she spent me into bankruptcy every single month. Whether I brought home $3,000 or $30,000 in any given month, it was all gone by the next. She got the new minivan, I got the 11 year old Mercury. We couldn't "afford" a new car for me. I drove without a heater for two winters because we couldn't "afford" to get it fixed. She got new clothes; at least once a week. I got a new suit for court when my parents gave me birthday or Christmas money.
2. When we got married she was 5'9' and 135lbs. When we got divorced she weighed over 300. I gave her 9 months to make an effort. In that time, she lost less than 10 lbs.
3. She was devoted to a church that was incredibly oppressive. She insisted it be the center of our life; spiritually, socially, economically... every event we attended, every friend we had, every move we made had to be church sponsored or approved.
4. Her idea of intimacy was that I could have sex any time I wanted. She would just lie there and let me. Literally. That went on for 18 years. I bought books for her/us. I put a bit of clear tape across the bottom, that would tear if she opened them. (I was a trial attorney. I knew how to gather evidence.) A year and a half afterwards I asked if she'd read them. She said she had, several times. The tape was still there, on all of them.
5. She had an "affair" with my best friend. It lasted quite a while, till we moved out of town. She said it never went as far as sex (which I actually kind of believe), but she never rationally explained what she was doing at his house, repeatedly, when his wife wasn't home. Or how he managed to kiss her "without her consent"...
6. She never worked, other than extremely part time. I put us through college and law school, working full time and owning my own business while going to school full time as well. She stayed home.....
7. We went for counselling for almost a year; after I threatened divorce. Some changes were made and I had some hope, until I overheard her talking to her sister on the phone; telling her she hoped I would "get over all this soon so things could get back to the way the always had been".

Enough for you? It was for me.

Answer 3

My wife was unfaithful.

That was in 1984.

It was in that year, when I discovered what had been going on, that I resolved to stay with my children no matter what she did. I would never abandon them, no matter what happened, and they would never be exposed to the threat of a succession of strange men moving through their lives by virtue of moving through the life of their mother. I couldn't stop her infidelity, and to be honest, after the first time something broke and I didn't really give a damn what she did any more. Just so long as she never brought it in to my home, the home of her children. In 1984 I told her that the day would eventually come when the kids would all go their own ways and be able to live without my help, and that when that day came I would be gone too.

The years rolled by.

In early May 2004 my youngest son left home and set up a home of his own with his girlfriend. Shortly before the end of May I packed up what I needed in a hold-all. Then I tossed my house keys at the woman to whom I had been married for 28 long and empty years and told her I was going. I walked away from her, the house and everything I had ever known without so much as a word of farewell or a glance over my shoulder.

She had the audacity to ask me to stay.

The divorce was made final on the 1st of January, 2005.

I was never unfaithful to my wife; I lived a life of celibacy from 1984 until I was divorced.

And just to round things off, she was married on Saturday just gone, the 6th.

I find that despite it all I wish her well, and hope she has a nice and happy life.

Answer 4

My partner used up all their 'let it go chips' Love is powerful but I learned the liking them, and being respected is just as important. I found that some people want to be married for the status and dont work on being with that person. I gave a whole lot in that relationship and received much less in return. They couldnt figure out why I would get so pissed when I 'couldnt' do something that I wanted while I supported all the things they loved to do.

Answer 5

1) he was a dumba** that had to have an affair with my best friend in our house while our kids were at home 2) he made good money but refused to pay anything for our kids my mother ended up paying their lunch accounts at school so they could eat and 3) he was a 33 year old momma's boy that had a mother that constantly stuck her nose in where it didn't belong and finally the straw that broke the camels back was when our son got hit by a car and rushed to the hospital he informe me it was my problem he had better things to do

Answer 6

Because.....
1.- He was a mamma's boy & he didn't want to move on ..
2.- His mom knew about him cheating on me & allowed her "Grils" to visit him were we used to live.
3.- Because when i find out, I ask him for an explanation, he decide to hit me & I was 3 months pregnant I end up in the hospital...
4._ He was a jerk but he didn't show it before we were married, he changed after almost 2 years of marriage...After the divorce I find out that we cheated on me since the first year of marriage,we were married for 3 years...
I decided to leave him after he send me to the hospital I didn't want this for me or my baby Thank God I didn't lose my baby... So I did it for me & for her after that he beg me to go back, but I didn't accept.... Now I happily married to a wonderful man that loves me & accept me with my daugther she loves him more than her own dad, & we have a baby boy & expecting our third baby..... I don't regret being married to him because the only GOOD thing that he left me was my daugther after that nothing else was good well only for couple of years that I thougth everything was fine !!!!

Answer 7

the first time, i was 16 and way too young. i didnt love him. i just wanted to get away from home because it was too rough to handle anymore. he ended up abusing me physically too many times.

the second time i got married, i wasnt real smart either. i married a con and he was psycho. claimed my daughter even tho he knew she wasnt his so i wouldnt divorce him. since then, he has been in and out of prison ever since. i think that he likes to be there.

Answer 8

I m not divorced , but , i guess as you get older love changes , and passion too , I guess is normal to look for other horizons, to be toghether you have to grow together , and that is very dificult

Answer 9

Because my ex was a liar and a cheater and basically just a bad person. Don't believe me? He had an online affair with a gay man while I was pregnant with our 3rd child.

Answer 10

I lost ed the best thing that ever happened in my life! I should have tired to work it out, i e., counseling or talking to her about what was going on.