I'm not a transvestite. I have no desire to wear women's clothing. But what's the big friggin deal? So he secretly wears your undies......so what?
If I came home and found my wife wearing my undies, I'd be puzzled, and maybe amused, and I'd sure wonder what she was doing......but that's no reason to go hysterical and see a therapist and a divorce lawyer or assume she's a lesbian or bisexual. Lighten up ladies! What's the big deal?
2006-08-07 10:46:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's no big deal, if you want to wear womens' clothing then wear womens' clothing. Do whatever makes you happy, I think it's kinda funny. My brother occasionally wears womens' clothing, it's not a big deal. I'm with you, what is the big deal?
2006-08-07 10:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps it's because it was hidden from them beforehand... and thats a pretty big 'secret' to discover! Nobody likes being lied to by their Significant Other.
I don't think a guy wearing his wifes panties would be a transvestite - I think it would be more that he'd be dressed full blown in an entire womens outfit
2006-08-07 10:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by bigbadwolfe_2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's their identity, subconsciously they think you're trying to steal it or muscle in and become equal to them. Of course she can wear your undies, haven't you noticed that women always get it both ways? It's the great unquestionable double standard regarding everything from child care and custody to having a right to work and the privilege not to.
2006-08-07 10:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the big deal is that it's almost like a lie. Actually it is a lie. You married someone thinking you knew about their personalities, quirks, good points, bad points, etc...but, then you come home & find out that they have a point that you didn't know about. It makes people uncomfortable. You've been living with someone that you thought you knew...and you find out that you don't. That's what the big deal is.
2006-08-07 10:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 14:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i came homw and found my husband in my undies I'd hug him after I finished laughing at him... I wouldn't put it past him he'll do anything to get a laugh out of me.
2006-08-07 10:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...for me it would be a form of deception. nobody likes being lied to, or having the wool pulled over one's eyes. if you swing both ways, you shoulda told your 'significan't other...or isnt she significant enough? or did you know deep down you'd lose her so you wanted to gain her confidence first?
if you were just being silly and poofing about, then perhaps your wife is a bit paranoid, perhaps she isnt and you really want out but can't even admit it (even to yourself?).
one can only speculate, ultimately, the answer lies within you...perhaps she's acting out of as much confusion as i feel as an outsider. no one likes to feel confused about his or her spouse, most people feel comforted by a good measure of predictability. if u never wanted 9 to 5 to begin with, then perhaps you were a little selfish in raising that expectation in your partner, when you possibly knew you wouldnt be able to deliver? oh well, as i said, the answer really lies within you...take care,
whizzdom
2006-08-07 10:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by Wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would freak out because it's not the normal thing to do! If he were to wear my underwear I wouldn't freak but would ask him why. I would freak if he were to be wearing makeup and go the whole nine yards.
2006-08-07 10:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want a manly man. Not a girly man. If he wants to be like a woman, than he has issues. I don't want or want to expect that from the MAN I marry. So I would freak out.
2006-08-07 10:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the night I left my first husband I asked him why didn't u tell me what u were like be4 we got married. His answer was I knew u wouldn't marry me. It wasn't just cause he wore womans clothes although that did play a part. you'd have to be a woman to understand how degrading it feels.
2006-08-07 16:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by sshhorty2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋